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ok so i have my ex best friends and ex boyfriend saying crap about me and spreading it around. im 15 and i feel like people are starting to talk about me behind my back? i dont think my current friends are but i definitely know that my ex best friends are because they keep giving me really bad looks. i dont care what people think about me i never did and never will because i always know the truth but still i dont want this getting out of control because it's starting to a bit. what can i do about it?
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the only thing that matters is that YOU know the truth. But if thats not enough, talk to them. Ask them why? Why would you do that to me? If they dont answer or say something snotty walk away. As long as your friends dont believe it and your teachers dont believe it, then your fine. Forget them, they're losers if they talk behind your back.
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the only thing that matters is that YOU know the truth. But if thats not enough, talk to them. Ask them why? Why would you do that to me? If they dont answer or say something snotty walk away. As long as your friends dont believe it and your teachers dont believe it, then your fine. Forget them, they're losers if they talk behind your back.
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the only thing that matters is that YOU know the truth. But if thats not enough, talk to them. Ask them why? Why would you do that to me? If they dont answer or say something snotty walk away. As long as your friends dont believe it and your teachers dont believe it, then your fine. Forget them, they're losers if they talk behind your back.
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Just as TuscanSun said, it is a part of life. But its worth the part because it can teach you how to handle situations like this. Understand that people are stupid and they will do whatever they can to feel good about themselves even if it hurts people. As for you, don't get too stressed about it. If you show no interest in what they do or say they will eventually leave you alone. However, if they keep up, that is when you are going to find out who your real friends are. If you have friends you can trust, you should tell them about this problem. That's what i would do. Either that or ignore it. If you want me to help you out more just send me a message of what you think of my advice. Maybe we can figure this out if your up for it.
Hope this helps,
-Manny
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At your age, stuff like this is (sadly) a part of life. All you can do is confront them, and hope that they're mature enough to end their childish behavior.
I had a similar situation in High School, but it was with people who I was never friends with. They chose to be mean to me for no apparent reason. I had finally had enough, and asked one guy why he was being so immature. All he did was laugh in my face, but I felt so good about the situation because I stood up for myself. I'm sure you'll feel the same if you stand up for YOURself. Don't let people walk all over you. If you allow them to spread rumors about you and do nothing, they'll continue to do it.
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like you said don't care about what people think about you...confront them them if it is getting a bit too much....don't hide it until you can't take it anymore..tell them what you think and then walk away...if they still don't change, then truly you have done your part...take it to the authorities if you have to....
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just ignore it you can never stop people from talking no matter what people are always going to talk ignore and they will eventually stop and get bored
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The old saying that; "Sticks and stones can break my bones but names hurt" applies here. It is good that you won't let them get to you with their trash talk. Trash talk though is a form of bullying. Bullying is not condoned, especially in school.
If this is happening in school or even after school based on things happening in school; you can report them to the school principal. Bullying has become a nationwide problem one school officials are well aware of and have, through some tragic events, been forced to deal with.
If you don't want to report them, then talk to them. Tell them that their trash talk and rumor mongering doesn't bother you in the least. It simply satisfies their own penile urges and you won't do any thing to satisfy that urge. The word penile in this form has nothing to do with a male member or sexual connotation. Don't tell them that, let them figure it out for themselves.
You go on to say at some point they will cross a line and when they do the price they pay will be heavy. That price could be both in school and in a courtroom. Your advice to them is they go off and find their entertainment someplace else before they ruin there lives.
Some of them will believe what you say and some won't. Those that don't will probably continue to bully and maybe increase there efforts at which time you will have no choice but to advise the principal.
So before you do anything about this, talk to your parents.
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Talk to them about it or just ignore it. Either one works fine...Unless talking to them makes things worse, then ignoring it would work best. I always ignored people talking about me and giving me dirty looks when I knew they were talking crap, but everyone is different. :S
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