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Bipolar girlfriend
My girlfriend is so bipolar its ridiculous. I'm not sure if she actually has these mood swings or if she just acts like it to get a reaction out of me. its so random, we'll be talking about something and she will all of a sudden say bye or i don't wanna be with you anymore when an hour earlier she was saying how she wants to be with me forever and wouldn't leave me for the world. She says some mean stuff when she gets that way and i just ignore it and don't say anything back. i'm sick of her doing it and breaking up with me 50 times a day but i don't know how to get her to stop. i feel like if i broke up with her because of it she wouldn't try to get me back she would be ok with it because she always says i deserve better than her and if i left her i'd be better off. I want to be with her so badly but i can't deal with these mood swings all the time they are ridiculous
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I think you should talk to her about seeing a doctor and getting some advice or how to handle this.
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Bipolar mood disorder is a serious mental illness that is a characterized by HUGE rises and falls that take places over months or weeks, not several times a day. It's not just being moody or being bitchy. Please don't call describe her as bipolar -- it's like calling someone a retard -- it's not accurate or respectful.
Your girlfriend might be mentally ill, but she probably isn't bipolar.
She also isn't very nice. She uses emotional ploys to bully you and keep you anxious. That sucks.
Why do you want to be with her?
Ask her to stop it. Tell her it's not cool. Tell her it will scare you off if she keeps breaking up with you randomly -- because that's the truth. No one can live with that shit. Don't call her names, or tell her she is ridiculous. That's not nice either. But do tell her that you won't be able to make it work if she continues on like this.
If she can't stop, then you aren't the right partners for each other.
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Have her see her psychiatrist. When it comes to bipolar disorder mood swings are heightened but they shouldn't be up and down like this once her disorder has been stabilized with medication. It hits a plateau.
You'll be down for a period of time consistently and fine for a long stretch consistently and living life normally like you don't have a disease like this 99% of time once medication and treatment are working.
To me, having had experience with this, I think her medication and behavior is way, way, off from what is normal and would lead me to believe she's got medication and other issues with the disease that aren't being handled.
You shouldn't be all over the place and doing and saying irrational things be it about a relationship or not like she has if something isn't right. It needs to be corrected. As long as delusions aren't creeping in as well this could just be as simple as readjusting all her meds so they work better.
Also, NEVER think that a person with bipolar is using the disease or mood swings to get something they want or to cause you misery. They don't. Those mood swings are a part of the disease and will be as irrational to the hilt as they may be but never faked. It's like that when medicine hasn't and isn't working. She needs help. Try and get it for her.
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She seems to be a little insecure with your relationship. If this is just a way to make you react you shouldn't have to put up with something like this. If this is just her then you might want to seek therapy or a doctor. She seems to be in a extremely upset mood most of the time, and she puts herself down. These are signs of having a low self esteem. There could possible be a dramatic event that has occurred in her life or is happening right now. This could also be a hormonal upset. before you suggest this you might want to talk to her about troubles she's having at work, with her family/ friends, and her childhood.
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