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I start college in 2 days and I've been doing a lot of thinking.. I really want to change my attitude. High school wasn't great for me because I am really shy and I didn't have many friends. I really want to change that for college. I'll be a freshman in college and I am a little nervous but kind of excited too. How do I change from being the shy girl to becoming more outgoing and meeting new people and making new friends? I have difficulty starting a conversation with strangers, and I also have difficulty becoming friends with someone. It just seems awkward whenever I ask for their number and ask to hang out.. and if I ever do hang out with them, it just seems so awkward. Please help!
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Hi there,
I'm in the same boat as go, I leave for college in a few days! I'm so nervous, but I'm also excited.
College is the perfect place to start over. All of the freshman will be looking to meet new people, so you don't have to do much to make new friends. Just smile, be friendly, and try to start talking. Compliment a girl on her shoes, or find something in common with someone. Talk to people in your classes about the assignments or the teacher or something you found funny, and go from there.
You don't have to ask for their number off the bat, since you guys will be spending time at school you can just hang out there. Then if you decide to make plans for later, just say "Give me your number and I'll text you about tonight" or something like that. Hang out in groups at first so it isn't awkward, and then you will get to know people better.
Don't be afraid to join clubs and get involved, this will get you out there to meet new people.
Just try your best, and when in doubt, smile!
Good luck,
-Abby
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You are going to find it a lot easier to make friends in college than you did in high school. There will a more diverse group of people and you'll find more people that you have things in common with. Try not to stress about it much in the beginning. Don't worry about changing or fitting in, just think about adjusting to the new life and learning the ins and outs of college life. You'll just meet people naturally along the way. But if after a few weeks you still find it difficult to meet friends, start looking at a club or clubs to join. Whatever your interests are. Find a group and join. I always think that's a great way to meet people because you'll already have a common interest, so its easier to connect and talk with people. Do as much as you can. Get out there. Don't stay at home on the computer. Go to events, concerts, performances, groups, whatever is happening on campus. As you become more comfortable in front of strangers, they will become more comfortable around you, and someone else is bound to break the ice eventually. you are going to be fine. I know it. There's nothing wrong with being shy. But don't hide your light. You have things about you that other people need, and vice versa. Have fun and good luck!
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