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self concious
My dad always complains about food going too quickly. I'm slightly overweight, and I'm super self concious. I don't like eating in front of people or people knowing that I ate because I feel like they're judging me. I told my dad and he said that he doesn't mean anything by saying I eat too much, and that parents always complain, but it still bothers me when he says it. How can I get over it and make myself not care when he says that ?
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When he's speaking leave the room, or if you can't, try to distract yourself like go on your cell phone or your computer.
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Pick at something hes self conscious about, then when he talks to you about it say "sound familiar dad?".
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Well, the first thing I would do in your place is not let my dad off the hook that easily.
You turn to him and say "You might not mean anything by it, but it still really hurts. Weight is a tough issue for me, and most young girls are really sensitive about it, so even thought you don't MEAN anything by it, please, as a favor to me, stop it."
And then you follow up. When he makes a comment, without whinning or crying, tell him "Dad, ouch! That hurts."
It's a good idea to work on having a thicker skin, but there is really no trick to that -- you just have take a deep breath and let things go. However, you should also be able to tell your dad when he offends you.
My dad used to always say "Hey have you lost weight?" I had to loose it on him a few times before he stopped, but he did stop, because even though he meant well - even as a compliment - I often had gained weight, and his comments made me feel like shit.
Most dads don't want to make their daughter's feel bad or ashamed, you just have to point out calmly and constantly that his comments aren't funny, and are upsetting you. It's not he's being bad or mean necessarily, just that you are asking him to respect a sensitive issue for you.
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