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whats the best way to make friends?
I have a very severe panic attack and anxiety disorder. I'm very bubbly and social when I'm comfortable, but most times my disorders make me nervous and its hard for me to associate with new people. I have a few very good friends but I really want to make more friends. I already take medication but I don't know how to socialize because I get so nervous and end up being shy. Please help me. Does anyone know what I can do?
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okay well I had a friend like this and it seemed like if she was around people she was used to and comfprtable with she was calm and bubbly and if she wasn't she srot of froze and wouldn't speak she looked terrified. Trust me other people have this problem, it's not just you. I was very shy when I was younger also. What you have to do is go and introduce yourself thats probably the scariest bit when meeting new people but once thats over the do some work and the rest flows. Whats the worst that could happen? No one will tell you to get lost they'll probably say hi and introduce themselves back and there you go thats your start. Join some clubs of things that your into I gaurantee you'll find people who you are in common with or are shy too, but you WILL be fine theres nothing that bad thats worth you being so afraid don't let it take voer your stronger then that you can do it :D xx
Goodluck, Chloe xx
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I believe you will find your answer in talk therapy with a psychologist trained in anxiety disorders. Most anxiety disorders have something to do with a deep seated scare or trauma.
An example of this is myself when I was a very young child my mother scared me into being terrified of all dogs large and small. She thought she was keeping me safe; instead she put me at risk way into my adult years.
We all tell are children never to talk to strangers. Just how your parents instilled this in you may be partially the problem with your anxiety towards strangers.
Working with a therapist very possibly will get to the cause of the problem where medication only deals with the problem but does nothing to cure the problem.
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The first step, the absolutely most important step is to love yourself. Find out what's good about you, embrace the bad. Accept your inner and outer self. It's harder said then done, I know. But, once you respect yourself, people will respect you.
So, be comfortable. Be yourself. And go out there and have fun
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