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Should I just give up?
So I'm going to be 17 in 3 days and I've only been asked out three times and i've only had 1 boyfriend. Nobody asked me to prom last year. In fact I've never been asked to any dance or party.
People tell me i'm really pretty but I feel like the ugliest troll in the entire world.
I have to go back to school soon for my senior year and I start to cry even thinking about it because I know I'm going to be surrounded by over 1,000 gorgeous rich girls that make me look like a pile of trash.
I think everybody looks down at me because I'm short for my age and so they see me as a little kid (I'm 5ft exactly). Like I'll try to talk to the popular preppy girls and they'll just roll their eyes at me.
One of them talked to me once in my television productions class and I was so shocked that I asked her if she was talking to me or somebody behind me. I couldn't believe that they even noticed my existence.
I've tried dying my hair different colors (brown and blonde) and being as skinny as possible (I'm 75 pounds) and I put on makeup and dress nicely.
I try to be funny,smart and empathic and the friends I do have love me for it and people come looking for me to give them advice and a shoulder to lean on all the time.
When I got my senior portraits done the photographer told me I should be a model because I was so pretty.
I don't know what's wrong with me I must be some sort of freak. I feel so horrible about myself I just want to disappear.
I don't know what more I can do to make myself look like something more then a stepping stone.
I fear that I'm never going to amount to anything and that nobody will ever love me and that I'm either going to get murdered or that I'll live out my life completely alone and die without ever knowing what love is.
Please give me some advice.
Thank You so much.
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I totally understand how this feels because I felt the same for a very long time, and yes you should give up. give up on being what you think these people want, be yourself, don't stop eating if you are hungry you should eat.
When I was at school I felt the same, everyone was pretty and I was not, I wasn't popular most people had no idea who I was at all and it seemed like I had no chance of fitting in, it drove me to depression (which will happen to you if you don't be yourself) and made me question every part of my identity, but then I thought "fuck it, I'm me and that's all I can be." and all of a sudden people started talking to me, and noticing me, no guys had ever even spoken to me until I was 17 (when I made this change) and all of a sudden some of my best friends were guys.
So what i'm saying is, when your not yourself people see it and don't care for it, when you act the way you feel is right for you people appreciate your inner beauty much more. Nothing is wrong with you, your human like all the others in your school and a lot of them probably feel the same just be yourself and people will notice you for you and you'll be able to relax and be easier to talk to as a result :)
As for the dates and boyfriends, not a big deal, like I said until I was your age not a single person asked me out and now I have a lovely boyfriend and wherever we go he gets annoyed at the amount of men watching me walk etc. its just a development and confidence thing, in my experience, when your at school the easy girls are the popular girls that get the male attention, and trust me, when you get older being able to say you have only had one or two serious relationships is much better than saying you have had hundreds of one night stands :) So be yourself, study hard and relax, life will always work out if you give it a chance to and push it along. Good luck for the future :)
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Welp, you have me beat at that age. I had been asked out by exactly two guys and had one boyfriend. I know exactly what it feels like to be rejected by the male species.
I'll let you in on a secret: the popular girls? They will roll their eyes at anyone who dares to make an attempt at communication. There's a reason they're popular... by creating a shortage in positions available in their group, they create a higher demand for those positions. So naturally they have to exclude just about everyone.
Stick to your friends. Keep being you. Get involved in stuff... volunteer, or join a club. Find a sense of self-worth that isn't related to your looks and you'll be much happier for it.
The good news is that once you get past high school, things do get better. You tend to fall in with crowds who are more like you, and the losers fall by the wayside because there's no room for popular princess attitude in the real world.
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Woah. It sounds like you have A LOT of self-esteem issues. Firstly if everyone thinks that you are beautiful and that you could be a model, they're not ALL lying. Secondly, the reason guys don't ask you out is because you're not confident. I don't have to know you to know that. I can see and hear it from this post. You feel invisible but do you do things to be noticed? Guys like confident girls who know what they want. You know that one "popular" girl in class who is always laughing and flirting with guys. She's not getting the guys because she's popular, she's popular because she knows how to get the guys. For example, I'm not the prettiest girl in my class, but I am the one who knows how to talk to people, I entertain people, I make them laugh and people like to laugh. They like to hang out with people who give them something to talk about or remember. If you feel like a piece of trash stepping stone, thats going to come out no matter what. I don't think the problem is your looks, its your personality. And please don't start feeling bad about your personality. Your biggest flaw is your lack of self-confidence and love for who you are which is really quite sad but much better than arrogance. I think the first thing you need to do is work on learning who you are and who you want to be and sticking to it. You need to learn that there are 6 billion people on this planet and you can't have all of them like YOU. You can't even guarantee that one of them will like you but what you can do is make sure YOU are the best possible person you can be. What is the use of a million people liking you if you don't like yourself. You said you have friends and you've had a boyfriend so obviously you are likable but you still feel like shit inside because you don't respect and love yourself. Instead of searching for OTHER people's love, give yourself some. I would look online for some ways to gain confidence and love yourself and some support groups because there are tons of people out there who just can't see how special they could be and what they have to offer the world. Good luck and I hope you find the beauty of not being perfect. xxx
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