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Period and Menustration: Almost 15 and I am not developing. What is wrong?
I am 14 years old. Turning 15 in 4 months and going into grade 10. I havent even started my period yet, all my frends have gotten theirs. I have very small hardly noticeable breasts, i dont wear a bra and i have been like this since grade 7, my breasts have not made any size difference. i have a little hair under my arms and fewer hair in my vagina. i have never had this "discharge" everyone talks about. i am really worried, i know everyone says that its not something to look forward too but every girl wants it. i get made fun of alot,, i dont have someone i can turn to talk about this and i cant stop thinking about it. i cry alot about this. can any body help me out there?
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Hi . its me that asked the question.
thanks everyone this really helped alot, to let u know its not something im comfortabke with talking to friends or parents.
ninjaneer ; thanks very much , i think just talk to my doctor about it.
adviceman49 ; thanks, first tp ur questions. i am just uncomfortable with talking about this. secondly, yes . i woukd say i am underweight and very active. i play in rep sports and have always been involved in school sports or outsode school sports since i was little. i train really hard and i can see you point here. thanks again.
xxizabellersxx ;
thanks, yes well my mom got her period when she was jn grade 7. and my two older sister both got theirs when they were in grade 7. my moms breats arent huge and neither are my sisters but they have average breast size for their age. thanks you.
this really helps alot.
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Long story short, everyone's different.
I can tell you that I had a friend who was in your situation. She was 15, 32A, hardly developed. Then, when she finally got her period that year her breasts grew 2 cup sizes over night. Literally. Now, she might just have been weird, but it just goes to show that there's always hope.
If it doesn't come by the time you're 16, there may be a medical problem. Otherwise, wait it out. We can't make our bodies do what they're not ready to do.
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First I have a question or two for you.
1)You say; "i don't have someone i can turn to talk about this." If for some reason mom is not in the picture, do you not have an Aunt, Older Sister or Grandmother you can speak with?"
2) Are you very athletic?
The reason for my questions is this. We don't know you and therefore we can only answer in generalities. Your mom, Aunt, Grandmother can be more specific in answering these types of questions for you. There is nothing in this question you should be embarrassed about. This question is about a normal part of a woman's maturity that you have valid questions on.
That being said; being fourteen and not having your period and not growing breasts is not unreasonable. The non-medical term for this is called being a late bloomer. This may be a genetic trait for women in your family. If so you probably have nothing to worry about at this time and simply must wait until your hormones that control these things wake up.
Another cause would be if you are underweight. If you are underweight you body is not going to expend the energy it needs to survive by producing hormones it does not need. Being underweight is actually more detrimental for you than being slightly overweight. If someone is underweight the body will do all it can to survive. It does this by feeding off itself and if need be shutting down different systems until only the heart and brain are functioning. If you are not sure as to what your proper weight should be, then you need to check in with your doctor.
Another reason could be if your are very athletic. Have you ever looked at some of the female Olympic athletes. Most if not all of them, regardless of their age, are very small breasted. They also do not get their periods. Once they stop training their breast enlarge and they start getting their periods. Just why this happens I have not researched, I just know it is something that happens to female athletes.
You are wrong about one thing. You do have someone you can talk to about this or any other problem regarding your body and sexual issues. That would be your doctor. At 14 years of age you have medical confidentiality. Meaning you can visit and meet with a doctor without parental supervision. Anything said to the doctor during an examination, anything you are treated for remains confidential. No medical information can be released without your expressed written permission. This is written in a Federal Law called HIPPA.
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How old was your mom when she got her period? My mom was fairly early (11) so I got mom pretty early too (12). My friend got hers this year... I'm now 18 but her mom got her period at 17. Also some girls just develop later than others but if you're really worried you should talk to your mom about it or if you're not comfortable with that, find the nearest clinic and go with a friend or by yourself and get some tests done. I think it is still a bit too early to worry since there are lots of girl who only get there period at 15-16. Consider yourself lucky. Once you get your period you'll be wishing for the days when you didn't have to worry about leaking, forgetting to bring pads or tampons to school or getting it before nice holidays at the beach.. In the meantime you can always wear a AA bra with padding, maybe a good push up from Victoria's secret. Unfortunately for some girls even after they get their period they barely have boobs so just use what they do to make themselves look bigger if it really bothers you that much. Good luck! xxx
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