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grandsons behavior problems
I have a grandson we have guardianship on him,he refuses to help around the house,disrespetiful,and has a lot of anger at everybody.we have tried to help him but he doesnt want it.We have put him in 2 places that said they can help him then they call us and say come get him we cant do anything with him.I need help please please please im at my wits end.he is 15.
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I'm very sorry to hear about the situation you are dealing with.
I would suggest you get him a psychologist. He seems to need someone to let it out, all his anger and frustration. He must feel bad that he ain't with his actual parents. Their is a possibility too that he might get tease from his classmates, due to this. Sometimes children can be very mean, and that might be one of the reasons he is mad with the world.
Try to talk to him or find him that professional therapy, which I'm assuming that's what he needs.
May you find the help you need, hang in there...
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Did you ever try talking to him one on one. Teenagers need guidance, and love. You should just do something out of the ordinary, and take him on a vacation possibly to somewhere he likes. Ask him how he feels, or what he wants to do. As you are forming a better bond, ask him how he is feeling about the way he has been acting, and if he could possibly help out a little more around the house. Then confront him gently about his "anger issues" ask him what it is that makes him upset and angry....
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It would help if I knew the reason why you had guardianship of your grandson. From what you have written there is not enough information to offer much in the way of advice.
What I see is a 14/15 year old who may feel like some sort of cast off. This could account for rebellion and behavioral issues. As I said there is just not enough information.
The best advice I can offer is to get this boy some counseling with a good child psychologist. You all will need to understand, but mostly your grandson that the psychologist is there for him. That he/she is his confidant and he can say anything, tell he/she anything he wishes with the knowledge that what he says stays between them. Nothing he says gets back to you or anyone else.
Knowing this and hopefully accepting this he should be able to tell the psychologist whatever is bothering him. Then they can work together to fix the problems. It may mean that the psychologist may need to work with you as well, if so please do so as it in the best interest of your grandson.
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