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my boyfriend like another woman give him oral sex in my face
I wanted to see what it would be like to have sex with a woman.talked to my boyfriend about it hie answer was yes but when I called him into the room to come see he rubed her pussy and let her suck his dick without asking me if it was ok. I say it's cheating because I did not give him premission to do anything and it's been over a year and I still hurt behind this
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next time think about it 3 somes are ALWAYS a bad idea even if he isnt involved your man shouldnt be in the house while theirs a naked woman around
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If you really wanted to see what it was like to have sex with a woman, you should have done it on your own. Having him in the room naked without setting any boundries isn't his fault. He's going to do what any horny male would do, have sex with two girls. If you decide to do this again, set some real boundries, tie him to a chair to watch or don't invite him to join at all. I hope this helps and good luck.
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if the girl in question is your friend then she is not it at all, and for your boy friend he doesnt respect you because for a guy you call you boy friend to rube another woman pussy and allow her do such thing in your presence then he takes you for granted sorry to say
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Well.. it definatley is not right what he did to you.. to me that is just rude and just plainly not respecting you in any aspect and also, if he didn't get your response or even asking you. I believe if your in a relationship... you shouldn't be doing things like that.. well he did do things with others without your permission thats true.. its over a year? did he ever do it again? yeah.. I can imagine you are still hurt behind this. Have you talked to him about it? ever? I think you should talk to him about it and see what really is going through his mind , tell him what you feel and how hurt you got. I think you should be able to talk to him about this , it's not right and a girl like you should not be suffering through such stuff..
talk to him , and go to councelling like the other said or ''therapy'' ,but please don't fall into a trap where he will do it again.. people change and others don't , you dont deserve to be hurt. You were a witness so you know.
Good luck :)
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Talk to a relationship counselor.
I disagree with DangerNerd on the particulars. Although it's important to examine your own behavoir, and realize you were probably not as clear as you needed to be with him, or this other woman, about what the boundaries and expectations would be, that doesn't mean your boyfriend was correct in his behavoir. He wasn't.
If you were clear that this was about him watching, not about him participating or touching her, then he breached your trust and behaved very badly.
If you weren't as clear as you needed to be, with him and with her, then he was careless and acted in self-interest.
Cheating is too strong a word. Cheating implies deception and lies. He didn't decieve you, he made a poor, insensitive choice. You two weren't on the same page. You have a responsibility to make sure he understand exactly what it was you wanted to do. He had a responsibility to respect both the stated desires, and the implied the ones. Both of you probably fell short.
Adult men are not toddlers. They can be fairly expected not to eat a cake they have been told is not for them. You told him you'd be sharing an experience with another woman. He agreed. That's like telling your him "I baked these cupcakes for my co-workers." and then him eating half of them. It's not cheating, but it is fair to expect him to be more respectful and aware of your needs and intentions.
Go to couples therapy to talk about what happened and how you feel with an impartial mediator. You might consider staying away from the word cheating - he didn't cheat in any real way. What he did do was misread the situation, and breach your trust. You also probably failed to communicate to him (maybe you didn't even really know) exactly what you wanted to have happen.
If either of you want to continue to open up your relationship in anyway, you need to iron out these communications problems.
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Imagine this: You have a lovely fresh baked cake. You bring it into the house, and you ask your boyfriend if he thinks it would be nice to have cake. He says "Yes, we should have some cake!"
You then go in the other room, eat some of the cake (pun intended) then invite him in for some cake.
He has some cake. The cake which YOU wanted in the first place... the cake which YOU picked out and brought home... And you are mad at HIM for having cake?
You can be hurt all you want, but the mistake here is your own. First mistake was bringing someone else into your relationship. Once this happens, most people want this to happen again and again.
Second mistake was not telling him the truth about what you had in mind. That you selfishly wanted all the cake for yourself.
Basically what you wanted was a license to cheat on him without him getting anything out of it.
When you look at it like that, does this make better sense?
Please stop holding this against your boyfriend. You made both of the mistakes here, and complaining about it or being hurt, only makes you look extremely self centered.
Good luck to you.
P.S. Before you make the mistake of jumping his case about this, you should know one thing:
I, and I imagine most men, would dump you IMMEDIATELY if you came back and said you wanted a license to cheat, instead of a shared experience as a couple.
You have to tell people these things up front. Once the game is over, you don't get to change the rules anymore.
Be careful how you handle this, if you want to stay in this relationship.
You might want to talk to a couples counselor to get your head around this before you make the situation any worse than it is.
P.P.S. If you are bi-sexual, you should be honest with him about it.
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