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I am too shy for my own good. How do I fix this?
How do I become more extroverted? I am very shy around people I don't know but after I meet someone I'm a social butterfly? I don't understand myself lol
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Well, When i was younger i was very shy also. Now i act like im moving far away and just go up and talk to people. If you are being introduce do the same.(:
~Ashlyn(:~
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I have always consider myself to be an introverted person. So what does this introverted person do for a living these past 30 plus years. I was a representative for manufactures of different products. It was my job to go up to people I didn't know at their place of business and convince then they should use my companies product. Great job for and introvert, right.
Well it must have been because I have made a wonderful living doing so, although I have had to work very hard to overcome the problems of being an introverted person. Sometime I feel that was a plus factor in my success as a sales person. I knew my limitations and had to find ways to overcome them.
Being an introvert does not have to be a handicap. To me being an introvert was more like having a safety net, one that made me stop, look and listen before jumping into the pot, so to speak. I was and still am a little more cautious than the brethren. I'm not one of the load mouth salesman every one equates a salesman to be.
In my entire career my sales have always been in the top 5% of the company many time the sales leader. No one has yet convince me that my being introverted has been anything more than a plus factor for me.
That is what being an introverted person has been for me and it can be for you or any other introverted person. What being introverted person means to me is that we are a little more cautious in our selection process as we go through life. Once we have made that selection and our comfortable we can be more extroverted.
If you agree with me then do as I have done. Use being an introvert as a safety net. There is nothing wrong with being cautious. Once you are comfortable, as you have found, your extroverted personality comes out.
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Well, if you are truly an introverted person, there's really not much you can do. Being introverted or extroverted is something that is decided at birth or very early childhood, and you will be it the rest of your life. Neither one is better or worse, although sometimes it may feel like it (ESPECIALLY during teenage years). I speak from experience. I am the same way of you, closed up and shy around people I don't know, but when I get to know someone they think I am the most sociable person ever. I have just had to accept the fact that that's the way I am, and it's actually a good thing. Introverts tend to be more observant and better listeners. Also, many times we are able to make better friendships, although fewer, because we are much more picky about who we become friends with. However, there is a difference between being introverted and being intimidated by new people. If this is your case, make sure you smile a lot to let people know that you are interested in them. Remember that when you meet new people, they are usually truly interested in getting to know you, so talk and keep talking! Even if it seems like cliche topics, like "how many siblings do you have" or something like that, people really like it when you seem interested in their lives. Also, always address people by their names when you see them at school or wherever, as this makes the relationship feel more intimate. Anyways, hope these tips help! good luck!
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