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Sadism? Masochist? Am i any of those?
13/f
Is it weird to get aroused to the thought of someone hurting me? Not like beating me, but like during sex taking a knife and making little cuts just enough to where they bleed? I mean, im 13.... I really shouldn't have these thoughts. I also get aroused when i think of a guy... like dominating me. Its just weird. And i live in a house hold where if there's something wrong, and you need to go to a therapist of be on depression meds you get disowned and thrown out of the family. And you'll get sent to a far away school where you'll live there. Its happened to my sister betheny and my cousin Danny.... What should i do?
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Actually, it sounds to me like your parents are so screwed up the best thing that could happen to you would be to be adopted by another family.
The BDSM interests often (not to say that this is always the case) arise due to abuse in the home. Your parents sound mentally abusive at the very least and what you need to do in the short term is kick butt in school so that you can move away to college and put these mentally ill losers behind you.
As an aside, though, there is absolutely nothing wrong with having submissive feelings and wanting somebody to dominate you. All that stuff can be fun and fulfilling with the right partner. However, like all things in life, you have to manage it and look at it in a rational and reasonable way so you don't get hurt.
Good luck.
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Cutting yourself for pleasure might be a little extreme but having sexual fantasies about being dominated is perfectly normal. I've lived out many situations where bondage and domination were involved. You are a bit to young to consider doing this and being able to have safe words for your partner, so he know when to stop but when you're 18 you can find plenty of people that share your interest in bdsm. For now, I would reccomend doing a little research and read up on this a little more to see if it's something you really want to pursue. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask. I hope this helps and good luck.
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There is nothing wrong with a fantasy life just as long as you know the difference between fantasy and reality. That being said I believe at your present age you are trying to find your sexuality, which is okay as long as you do so in the realm of the fantasy world. You are far to young to be acting on these fantasies and having sex.
There is nothing wrong with having these type of thoughts. I believe as I said it is part of you find your sexuality. Exploring these thoughts at your age is wrong. When you are older and of legal age, if you want to explore this side of sexuality that is something to think of at that time.
For now my advice is to be 13, allow your body to adjust to the changes that will happen over the next several years. Enjoy your transformation from little girl to womanhood. There is plenty of time later in life to experiment with other things.
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Okay, so heres the thing. While some might tell you that thats highly disturbing or not okay, it is. It sounds as if you just have a sexual preference. A lot of people like BDSM, and are big fans of the Dom/Sub concept. What you're telling me just implies to me you would be interested in some light BDSM when having sex, which is perfectly okay.
However. I believe that 13 is too young to be attempting to try and live out these fantasies. Wait a few years, then have sex, and then put your sexual preference to use. It dosent make you disturbed, you don't need therapy, and you don't even need to tell your family as your sexual preferences are your buisness.
However, it is my personal opinion that at 13, you should keep it all as fantasy for now. Think about it if you like. Just don't act on it for a couple years.
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