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Ditch the class because of a guy?
20/f. So, during the spring, I was taking this science class, which I heard was suppose to be easy. It turned out everyone did REALLY bad because the teacher was terrible. We all picked a bad teacher. It happens. I got a D-! I am a smart girl with a high GPA and I cannot bear to see that D-. So, I can take it again, get a higher grade, and have that "forgiven," as the policy in my university states. If I do, I am certain that I will get an A, with whomever I take it with, as long as it's not this guy. His questions were tricky. I didn't learn anything. And I would like to keep my GPA high for scholarships and awards. Also, I am going into my third year now. This class was a pre-requisite class, so it's not like I need it for my major. I am also planning on applying to grad school, so it's just good to have my numbers high.
So, during the spring I started studying with a guy who was in my class. I started to understand things a little better when I had a friend to study with. But, after a couple of study sessions, he whipped out his penis in the library. It made me EXTREMELY uncomfortable, needless to say. They are offering the course this summer at my school. After that incident, the guy tried calling me and adding me on facebook. I guess he doesn't understand how disgusted and scared I am. My mom came to pick me up at school the other day because she was using my car, and saw him wandering. I'm a little bit scared and I think he's going to take the summer B class because he actually DOES need this class for his major. i don't want to take a class with him. I'm a little scared after that and I don't want him to be in a class with him.
Please help! What should I do?!?!?!
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I assume you go to Stanford since they are the only school I know that allows students to retake courses until they get the grade they want. I'm sure Stanford has a sexual harassment policy. Report the guy to the appropriate folks (maybe the campus PD so that they can keep an eye on him because he also broke the law by exposing himself in the library).
After you do that, you retake that class and just avoid the guy. Don't let other people sabotage your life! If he tries to keep approaching you, tell him off very publicly and then go to the appropriate people and have them handle it. File another report with the campus PD as well. If you don't get any satisfaction that way you can file for a restraining order.
Good luck.
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Report this guy to your advisor or the class teacher. You should have done that right away. Exposing yourself in public is illegal and is usually the sign of a sick person. Don't let this go. Tell the teacher or your adviser you want to take the class again,but can't if this guy is in it, because of what happens. See what happens from there.
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You can't let a perverted guy keep you from doing what you want.
Take the class, and if you see him there ignore him, or give him a polite nod and say that you don't want to talk.
If he won't leave you alone, then you should report him for harrassment. You should have reported him for showing you his penis at the library, he could have been expelled from the university for that.
You may be able to go to your advisor and arrange to be in a different class from him; if not then just try to handle it. For your safety I would never be alone anywhere with him and don't let him follow you to your dorm/car/etc.
He may just be troubled and doesn't know any better. If you feel a real threat then avoid the class, but if you think you can manage it then take it and just be careful.
Good luck,
-Abby
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