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love and jealousy
hi,
k so theres this guy that i really like, and before i liked him my cousin had this thing for him too. It started off her liking him, i kinda liked him back then but then i stepped away because she called dibs first. When she finally got over him, i started to notice him again, and then it started out me and him saying hi to each other whenever we passed by each other, and then we started to talk to each other conversationally. i told my cousin that i kinda liked him, and she said that she was fine with that and that she was totally over him anyways. But today when he said that he would sponser me to a dance, she started to get pissed off and then she started crying. since then i tried to talk to her, but she wouldn't listen to me and then she would run away from me. What should i do ??!?!?!!
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It's her problem. One of the growing experiences of life is dealing with loss. She may be mourning the break up of the relationship still, but the fact remains that the relationship is indeed kaput, which makes it open season on the guy. And by thinking of her while you are trying to solidify your relationship with the guy will only complicate things and turn him off bigtime.
So go at him with enthusiasm and if she wants to continue having a hissy fit then she still has some growing up to do emotionally. That's not your fault.
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Give her time. She's obviously hurt. She probably didn't want to seem like a b!tch and say that she wasn't okay with you liking him... its not like you can un-like him. She probably thought nothing would come of you liking him, and then it would be harmless for her. Now that something came of you liking him, though, she must feel jealousy that nothing ever happened between her and him and wants what you have.
Just tell her that you're really sorry, you had no idea that she would get upset, and leave it alone until she is ready to speak with you again.
And if you can gracefully back out of the dance with this guy, try to do so. Explain the circumstances without embarrassing your cousin and apologize for the reverse. Then make him off-limits for a while.
Good luck hon. xoxo
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