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Sister has anger issues
Hi. I'm 13 and my sis is 10. she is 50+lbs heavier than me and she can't control her anger. She beats me up prety much whenever I talk to her. I don't want to hurt her since shes my younger sis, but my parents don't really care that she does this and when they actually do something it's something along the lines of "No computer, no friends over, no tv etc. These are not making her stop. Whenever I defend myself I get grounded for a month. I tell my parents that its not fair and that I shouldn't be punished for defending myself, but they say its fair because I'm older and "should know better" I can't tell people my bruises are from my 10 yr old sister so what should I do? Should my sister go to anger managment class?
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Go to your school counselor and tell her you need him/her to intervene in this situation. Your parents are totally wacked in the head. Do it today.
Your sister is acting out because she is probably getting a lot of crap from her classmates at school about her weight and you being slimmer and prettier as well as more developed represents the kind of person she wants to be but isn't. In other words, she is basically projecting her frustration on you. Unfortunately, your parents are in total denial about this and you aren't mature or knowledgeable enough to act as your sister's therapist. That is why you need someone to intervene here.
If your counselor won't intervene and your parents won't get your sister therapy, you are just going to have to keep pounding her no matter what the consequences until she gets tired of getting her ass beat. And you tell your parents it is because they are in denial about your sister's deep seated psychological problems. If your parents then threaten something extreme like kicking you out of the house or bringing in the police, then you need to go to Child Protective Services for your city or county and have them intervene. Then maybe your stupid ass parents will get the message.
Good luck. I hope this works itself out rationally without much more drama.
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Yeah. 10 is old enough to understand and know better. More than old enough. She is doing it because they let her get away with it.
From what you described you're entirely in the right. Which is the problem, because you've been right and it doesn't matter, which makes "where to go from here" a bit of a mystery to me.
Possible approaches include continuing to talk to your parents, defending yourself every time and telling your parents that if they won't stop her and try to teach her you will, ignoring it, etc. I don't have enough info to know how any of these will turn out.
Something that might help, your parents are ignoring you, would they ignore another adult? School counselors are there to talk to and help out with things like this. Not all counselors put in the time and effort to help, but the right one definitely would. Talk to the ones at your school, think about explaining the entire situation and showing them the bruises and asking them to call a parent counselor conference so that an adult can tell your parents that yes, a 10 year old can and should be expected to control herself and not be physically violent.
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