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I feel like I should move?


Question Posted Tuesday May 10 2011, 7:24 am

I live in Sydney, Australia. I've had this feeling for as far back as I can remember that I wasn't living where I should have lived. When I was 4 my parent's moved from Melbourne to Sydney, so for a long time I thought it was just because I wanted to be back there (even though I couldn't remember anything about the place).

But as I got older I started to notice how different I was from everybody else around here. I was really creative, and in High School I felt like my abilities were never able to reach their potential. The school wasn't awful, but it didn't have a lot of resources, and a few not so amazing teachers. But it wasn't just those things, it was the whole vibe of the place. None of the other kids were interested in Arts or Music, or culture at all really.

I had friends and was never picked on, but I still felt outcasted because I didn't want the same things all of the other kids in the school wanted.

Now, I'm in my second year of University. I'm studying literature and creative writing which is absolutely what I want to be doing. And yet... I still get this feeling. I want to travel, move overseas, explore the world and find the place that 'speaks' to me. Is that normal, though? Is it normal to feel like you've just been living in a place you weren't meant to spend the rest of your life in?

I feel like I already know the answer to my questions and that I'm just terrified to go so far away all by myself. I keep thinking about it more and more though, and every day I get more excited, and the plans become ever more possible.

I'm going to try and apply to do an exchange program through my University to study in Canada for half a year. I'm really excited, but still terrified at being alone. I'm even more terrified that I may not be accepted.

I guess what I want to ask is if anyone else has ever wanted, more than anything, to move away. Just because you feel like you're not where you're meant to be. And maybe if it's crazy to pack up all of my things after I finish my degree and move to another country for a year or so?


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terrified that I may not be accepted by the University to do the exchange program*.

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VoiceofReason answered Friday May 13 2011, 10:24 pm:
Actually, dude, I recommend to kids all the time that they live overseas once they finish college. Given your major, you are a perfect candidate for teaching english in Japan, Korea, China and Taiwan. Take the opportunity. It will be good for you. Japan is fantastic. It would help, though, if you can adopt an American accent when you go there. Check Dave's ESL Cafe for info about teaching overseas.

Also, I can totally relate to feeling like a fish out of water. I was so disgruntled about my original high school I was planning to drop out at the first opportunity. Fortunately, my family moved for parental job reasons and my new high school was a perfect fit and I ended up enjoying being there. I went on later to graduate from university with honors and live in Asia.

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dearcandore answered Tuesday May 10 2011, 12:05 pm:
Hell no its not crazy! Its awesome! Do you realize how much guts it takes to do something like that? You are so brave already and you don't even realize it. Yes, you will be scared, even terrified. I did the same thing, moved to a completely different country and society as a young woman, all by myself. It was terrifying. And it was also the best choice I ever made. Its ok to be scared, but be courageous too. Courage is being scared of something and doing it anyway. You will never regret taking a chance, but you will always regret letting fear stop you from exploring life. Go for it. You'll be fine. You really will. And you will learn some surprising things about yourself along the way. Enjoy the ride!

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MissYMelisS answered Tuesday May 10 2011, 9:58 am:
Just Go. Your never going to know if its what you truly want unless you DO it.

Finish your degree, apply for the exchange program. Even if you dont get accepted, look for something else to do! Dont give up on something that is so obviously calling you.

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