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He hurt me again
I decided to give my ex another chance. We dated for 3 years and of course I still have feelings for him. Plus he was the guy I lost my virginity too, and the only person I've ever been with. He hurt me by saying it's not going to work since he's leaving again for the military. I just don't understand why he would pretend he still had feelings for me, just to toss me to the side again. I'm heartbroken, and I feel like a fool for letting my feelings get involved again. I've been doing great in all my classes, and six months later he calls and wants to hang out and puts all these lies into my head. I don't know what to do... Please help me?
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From how i see it i think he really does have feelings for you. You guys didnt break up for no reason, you guys broke up because he had to return to the military. He's only really thinking of you. He doesnt want to hold you back from having a life and make you wait for him while hes in the military. God forbidd something happens to him while he's at service, he doesnt want you to feel the pain of having someone you love die. If he spends all his time with you every time he gets back then he must really have feelings for you.
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I think everyone deserves a second chance. And three years is a very long time to be with one person. Especially if they were your first for many things. (Same way for me too) But You guys broke up for a reason. I don't think he lied to you about the feelings. I think he likes you but Because of how strict the military is and How hard it is to be in that well trying to connect with you is very difficult. He might have told you it's better to not date because of how hard it will be,. I know Your hurting and broken,. but you will find someone elsse. Your not a fool for following your feelings. you two were together for 3 years so it is only natural that you would want that back,. and that those feelings are so strong as they are,.
As far as hanging out with him again,. Are you at the point that you can just be friends,. That those old feelings won't affect what goes on right now,. |Maybe you need more time to make sure your over him,. before seeing him again.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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Wow I'm in your current situation right now except my ex broke up with me 4 days ago. He came back for me and I'm not sure if he's really committed to me anymore.
That's really disappointing and to be honest I feel hurt the same way you do too. I think the only thing you can do is to just try to move on. Do everything that makes you not bring those feelings back to the surface. I would be mad at my boyfriend if he told me that.
There's nothing really you can do right now. He's proved nothing to you except breaking your heart. Just try to avoid him. The best thing to do is to FORGET. If you ever need help feel free to talk to me anytime. Because I'll share with you what I've been through the past couple days and it's been horrible. Find someone who is worth your time and will make you happy. I know there's someone out there for you. You just have to wait till he comes. And another thing about breakups is you can cry and crying helps you get over it faster. I hope I helped.
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