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how to make your boyfriend love you more?
He is married with 3kids and he is having problem with his wife but wants me and i love him what should i do?
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You're just a piece on the side, no matter what he's telling you. There is something, likely sex, you are providing him that his wife isn't. The only things you can hope for is that by being low maintenance, laidback and very sexually available he will see you as a diametric opposite from his wife.
It definitely isn't unheard of for guys to marry their mistresses, but you also have to realize that there is HUGE difference between dating someone and living with them. The dynamic of the relationship changes completely when your partner is there 24/7 and you have to run a household together.
Moreover, part of the high for you in this is that you are winning the competition with another women by taking him away from his wife. This is why married men often do well in singles bars. There are even unmarried guys who wear wedding bands to attract women who bolster their own sense of self worth by undermining the relationship of another women. Once she is out of the picture entirely, though, the same jolt of excitement ain't gonna be there anymore. Things will become much more mundane.
My advice, then, is that a mentally healthy, self confident woman doesn't need to piggyback on the misery of another woman in order to feel good about herself, so you need to walk away from the relationship and do some introspection.
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Yuk. You must really not think much of yourself to be so desperate as to be with a married man with a family. Someday, when you have a family of your own, you'll understand how awful this situation truly is. He's not going to leave her. He's a father. Marriage is about more than love, believe it or not. Go your own way. Instead of asking what you can do to make him love you more (Horrible question, btw, you can't MAKE people love you) you need to ask yourself why you have such low self-esteem that you would fall for a man who is not available to you. Do the hard thing and walk away. Be brave, for once. Do the right thing. There may be someone out there who is just right for you but you are missing him because you're spending so much energy on this unavailable cheater.
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2 things you need to find out before romantically going for someone:
1. If they have issues.
2. If they are single.
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If he'll do it to her, he'll do it to you.
Also, you can't just make someone love you more. They love you or they don't. He's married. If he's also your boyfriend, there's sign one that it's an issue. Back out now, or be okay with the fact that he'll probably never love you the way you want him to.
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