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Dont know how to tell my mom I am going to have sex without her freaking out.
I am a 17 year old girl and just started wantin to enter the sex world. How do i tell my mom that i want to start having sex with out going crazy on me. I really dont want to go behind her back and do it but i have a feelin i will if i cant tell her soon. Sex has become a urge for me and i really want it. Please help me find a way to tell her.
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It's a good idea to talk to your mom about this because she will appreciate your honesty but the thing is you need to make sure you are ready yourself . are you ready to became a teenage mom? Are you ready to have to deal with consequences of having sex like std's . condomns do not prevent you from getting an std they ony prevent you from getting pregnant and they are not 100 percent effective either birth control is does not prevent you from getting a diesease it only prevents pregnancy. but if your determined to want to tak to your mom about having sex talk to her somewhere private .
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I think that you should first talk to her about sex. Ask her when it was the first time she had sex (as a mom she wouldn't mind) This might give her a clue that you might want to have sex. She might ask you "Why are you suddenly asking me this. " Then it will be easier to talk to her about it. She might go furious, but remember the most important thing is honesty. She will get over it in three days. NBut do it in a way that you don't hurt her feelings. I would help more if I knew what type of person she is. Please email me this if you want a more exact answer.
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grandfather. I hope the wisdom that comes with age and life experience will be helpful to you.
I don't think there is any easy way to tell your mother your planning on loosing your virginity and starting a sex life. Depending on what age mom was when she started having sex may depend on how wild she gets when you talk to her about this.
In fact this might be the starting point for a conversation. By law, in most every state you have reached the age of consent; meaning you can legally consent to a sexual encounter.
So if you combine the two in a conversation with mom it might be an easier way of telling her how you feel. I would suggest you do so someplace away from home. This is an old salesman's trick, and as I am an old salesman I will pass it a long.
Take mom to the mall or a restaurant for lunch. Taking mom out of the house when you have this conversation will force her to limit her reaction when you get to the point in the conversation that is the main purpose for the two of you being together. If you have siblings remember to ask mom out for a special time you need for just the two of you. This will probably alert mom to the fact that you have something personal or special to talk to her about though I don't feel it will alarm her or that she will refuse you this special time with her. It is fairly normal for a teen soon to turn into a legally adult women to want to have a special conversation with her mom.
You could start your conversation with; "mom, how old were you when you first had sex?" She might reply with one of two answers. 1) That's personal. 2) Why would you want to know that. There is also a third answer she could come up with which would be; "are you planning to have sex?" This answer leads right to what you wanted to speak about . Your answer would or could be a simple yes or I'm thinking about it and I wanted to discuss this with you.
Whatever your decision is after talking to your mom I would be remiss as a parent and a adviser if I didn't add some advise on protection when having sex.
Visit you gynecologist and get a prescription for birth control that is proper for you. Make sure that your partners always use a condom and that you know how to make sure he is wearing it properly. You can practice on a banana if you want. Even though you are on birth control condoms protect against the transfer of disease.
Most importantly never let a partner force you into a sexual act that you are not comfortable doing. Sex is a beautiful thing between two consenting adults. The operative word here is consenting. Both partners need to consent in order for the beauty to come through. Nothing is weird as long as there is consent from both. Both partners also have to understand that no means no and stop means stop, regardless of when it is said. Communication is the key to a good sex life.
Below is a link to a website I found for you women who have asked the question "Am I ready for sex". I think you would benefit by looking at this website, it would probably be best to do so before you have your talk with your mother.
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