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Bi-Curious question. (dont answer if u r a homophobic or someone like tha)
ok so im a girl and i know that i like guys already, but i have my bff. . .lets call her. . .nan. so nan and i have become really good friends this year and i think i am bi curious. like whenever she texts me i get all happy and she always makes me smile and shes so beautiful. . .but i dont know. i dont want to be even bi curious. i dont know if its just a phase but ive had thoughts on same sex relationships for like 6 maybe 7 months now. i mean i cant even decide for myself whether im bi curious or not because i think i might be in some kind of denial. i've neer felt this way b4 towad any girl but from what i just wrote, do i sound bi or bi curious to you?
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You may treading on thin ice with your friendship because I'm guessing that you don't know how your friend feels about you right now. If you really want to explore your sexuality and find out if your friend has the same feelings toward you, start asking her out on some mini dates. Hang out at the mall, go to lunch, have coffee, go to a movie and finally a dinner date. Her actions on these dates should give you some indication on how she feels about you. If you get to a point that you're pretty sure she's attracted to you, invite her to sleep over and if she readily agrees, she probably has similar feelings. If you choose not to sleep with your friend, don't be afraid to explore your sexuality with someone else. You can be attracted to both sexes and still live a normal life. Don't worry about what others will think of you or that you have to make a choice, just live your life and do what makes you happy. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask. I hope this helps and good luck.
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i know the feeling. but you sound to me like you have a good friend and your excited about that, dont ruin it by labeling yourself so early. it will make it weird for you to be around her, just say to yourself, this is my friend and i like her. you dont have to answer what TYPE of 'like' it is yet. hope this helped :}
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
I would be hesitant to place a label on your sexuality. At your age both boys and girls are still trying to figure out their sexuality. To label yourself as bi-curious would not only be wrong but self defeating at this time. To even put this in the category of a phase that most young people go through would not be right either.
There are a number of reasons for sexual attraction to someone of our own sex at your age. First and foremost is the fact it is safer and easier to relieve the sexual tension brought on by the changing hormones your body is producing. Parents think nothing of two children of the same sex being behind closed doors, sleeping together, even in the same bed, particularly females.
I have known women that have been bi all through college, then gone straight heterosexual afterwards. Reason it was easier and sex was more available if you were bi; it was also safer.
My advice: Don’t put a label on your sexuality at this time. Just enjoy learning about who you are sexually. When you are older if you still want to put a label on your sexuality then do so, but for now just enjoy being you.
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I go to a all girls school so trust me I've been through almost what you are experiencing. Yes it is one of those phases that you go through in your life. Some of us are lucky enough to know who they really are at an early age and some of us get confused and don't really know what to do.
You have to think of this carefully because if your thoughts are sending you hints about having a relationship with the same gender then there might be a small part of you that is curious enough to know what it feels like to be bi.
Feeling confused at a stage like this is normal. You're still growing up and this is one of those challenges you will face. Your decision matters because it will be the cause of your future.
You have to learn to figure this out on your own. What does your heart tell you? What does your brain tell you? Is this what you want? DO you think it is right? Have you given any thought on the people who will be affected by your decision?
I know it is a tough choice to make but this will help you to become stronger and this is the part where you get to know yourself.
-Juliet
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