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I Have A Promblem With Cutting.
I'm not really sure if i put this in the correct category, but anyways. I am 16 years old and ever since i was about 11 i used cutting as a way to take control of stuff that is happening in my life. It has been used from the death of loved ones,boyfriend issues, friendship issues, school problems, cancer of my youngest brother and even sometimes when i get too happy. I always hide the cuts, and usually cut over scars that i already have made. A close friend of mine was recently sent to a special hospital for cutting and that made me realize that i have a BIG problem. I just didn't know what else to do so PLEASE help me!
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you need to be aware of what situations make you want to cut yourself. This time make a commitment not to cut yourself do some different instead.
Tell someone and ask for help admit what you have been doing is wrong which you've already don't by coming to advicenators for advice and iam very proud of you for taking that first big step to recover. you neeed to get rid of blades,razors and all sharp objects you could use to cut with.
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Hi, I'm old enough to be your grand father and hopefully the wisdom that comes with age will help you.
You have crossed the biggest hurdle by realizing you have a problem. Now you need to take action and find away to get help. This problem has been going on for five years and are going to need professional help to get over this. That does not mean you need to be hospitalized as you friend has been. There are other ways to treat you in an outpatient setting.
You cut yourself as a way to deal with life's stressors and emotional pain. These are two symptoms of depression, but does not mean you are depressed. You could become depressed if you were to go untreated for what is bothering you.
My advice: You have admitted to yourself you have a problem. The next step is to tell mom and dad as you are going to need both their love and help in getting better. Your parents should arrange for you to see your family doctor first, who will want to do a complete physical and screening for depression.
When you see your doctor you are old enough to see the doctor alone without a parent in the exam room. By law you have full medical confidentiality. Meaning whatever the doctor treats you for is confidential and information cannot released to anyone, even your parents, without your written consent. The law is called HIPPA, this allows for free and open communication between you and any medical personnel you may come in contact with including a fire department paramedic should you ever need one.
Once your family doctor is assured you have done no physical harm to yourself a referral to a therapist for talk therapy is in order. This is where the real work and healing begins. The harder you work with your therapist; the more open you are, the faster you will start to feel better. The therapist doesn't heal you. You heal yourself through understanding. The therapist leads you and helps you understand.
In your case the understanding starts by understanding that none of what you have endured is your fault. You may think this consciously but subconsciously you may not. This is where the therapy works. Digging out what you have buried.
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For people who cut, doing something different may be a big change. Making this change can take time because you are learning new ways of dealing with the things that led you to cut. But a therapist or counselor can do more to help you heal old hurt and use your strengths to cope with life's struggles.
Start by being aware of which situations are likely to trigger your urge to cut. Make a commitment that this time you will not follow the urge, but will do something else instead.
Then make a plan for what you will do instead of cutting when you feel this urge.
Like all urges, the urge to cut will pass if you wait it out. Distracting yourself with something else helps time go by and gets your mind off the urge to cut. The more you wait out the urge without giving in, the more your urges will decrease over time.
Here are some things you can try while waiting for a cutting urge to pass:
•call a friend and talk about something completely different
•take a shower (make sure you don't have razors in the shower)
•go for a walk or run, take a bike ride, dance like crazy, or get some other form of exercise
•play with a pet
•watch TV (change the channel if the show gets upsetting or features cutting)
•drink a glass of water
•try a breathing exercise
•try some relaxing yoga exercises
•listen to soothing music that will shift your mood
Some people cut because the emotions that they feel seem way too powerful and painful to handle. Often, it may be hard for them to recognize these emotions for what they are — like anger, sadness, or other feelings. Here are some alternatives to cutting that you can try:
•draw or scribble designs on paper using a red pen or paint on white paper — if it helps, make the paint drip
•write out your hurt, anger, or pain using a pen and paper
•draw the pain
•compose songs or poetry to express what you're feeling
•listen to music that talks about how you feel
Sometimes, doing things that express anger or release tension can help a person gradually move away from cutting
•go for a walk or run, ride a bike, dance like crazy, or get some other form of exercise
•rip up some paper
•squeeze, knead, or smoosh a stress ball, handful of clay, or Play-Doh
If you cut because you feel alone, misunderstood, unloved, or disconnected, these ideas may help:
•call a friend
•play with a pet
•make a cup of tea, some warm milk, or cocoa
•try some yoga exercises that help you feel grounded, such as triangle pose
•try a breathing exercise like the one in the button above
•curl up on your bed in a soft, cozy blanket
You'll notice that all the tips in the lists above have nothing to do with the cutting sensation. When you have the idea to self-injure, start by trying the ideas on those lists — such as making art, walking your dog, or going for run.
If they don't help, move on to the substitute behaviors shown below.
These substitute behaviors won't work for everyone. They also don't help people get in touch with why they are cutting. What they do is provide immediate relief in a way that doesn't involve cutting, and therefore holds less risk of harm.
•rub an ice cube on your skin instead of cutting it
•wear a rubber band around your wrist and snap it gently against your skin
•draw on the skin with a soft-tipped red pen in the place you might usually cut
Cutting can be a difficult pattern to break. But it is possible. If you want help overcoming a self-injury habit and you're having trouble finding anything that works for you, talk with a therapist. Getting professional help to overcome the problem doesn't mean that someone is weak or crazy. Therapists and counselors are trained to help people discover inner strengths that help them heal. These inner strengths can then be used to cope with life's problems in a healthy way.
If you need anymore help please inbox me, good luck xx
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You use cutting as a way of dealing with problems. I don't have any background in psychology, but I'd say that on some level you might be using it as a way to deal with guilt. When an event that triggers your need to cut yourself happens, do you ever feel like you're not emotionally engaged enough? Do you feel guilty about your feelings?
The best thing to do is to follow-up with a psychological therapist and to work with them. They can help you track down and deal with the problem. But if that's not an option, you'll need to look within yourself to understand why it happens.
Don't ever feel like you need to punish yourself for anything, but don't confuse restraint and self-control with punishment. If you can't say no to a slice of cake, that's a restraint issue. If you feel like hacking yourself up because of that cake, that's punishment. And in the same view, if you don't think you feel "sad enough" or you think you're "too sad" at a funeral, you might feel ashamed. In that case, you need to accept the fact that everyone deals with these things differently.
Finally, remember that acceptance isn't something that you can order yourself to do - it takes time and rationale. You need to let it set in. Ask your parents about what acceptance is for them. Ask them how they felt at any of these tragedies.
Good luck.
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listen don't cut yourself your just hurting yourself and the others around you no one deserves to cut themselves life bring your stress and a lot of problems yeah but it only makes you strong i don't know you but I LOVE YOU:) who ever you are lol i love everyone and i think that you should find other things do then to just cut yourself try writing listening to music playing outside taking long walks ANYTHING that will keep your mind off of hurting yourself you don't want to end up like your friend i think that you should talk to someone more in depth of the reasons why you do it because it cant be only because of problems something else must have went on... i use to cut myself to a while ago but then i stopped now i wear a rubber band around my wrist and when i have to urge to cut myself i just pull on the rubber band it doesnt really hurt as much as cutting yourself... the pain will go away but the scares are always there...
i hope i helped . i love youu :) keep me posted.
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