Question Posted Wednesday February 16 2011, 12:39 am
Okay, I have been sexually active since I was 15. I've been with two different guys, one was 5 inches, and the other is 8 in a half. I have realized that I have never bleed during sex. I don't think I've had my cherry popped, and Im wondering if its something I should be concerned about?
heatherella answered Thursday February 24 2011, 4:43 am: Good question, but no, it's nothing to be concerned about. Many women, particularly women who are more active than others, (ie, horseback riding, sports, etc.) have their hymen break before actually having intercourse. Most of the time the girl just considers it part of a period, or "spotting". So don't worry about anything other than making sure the guy your with is worth your time :) . [ heatherella's advice column | Ask heatherella A Question ]
Peeps answered Wednesday February 16 2011, 2:11 pm: Just for a note in regards to the other user's advice below, there is NO(!) "technical" version of a virgin. I can actually explain this further (yes, be prepared for my short informational rant):
Unfortunately, there is no true medical definition for virginity. This leads people to run with their own ideas. Instead, let's pick up a real dictionary:
As per Webster's Dictionary:
- the quality or state of being virgin
- an absolutely chaste young woman
- a person who has not had sexual intercourse
- a person who is inexperienced in a usually specified sphere of activity
- pure in thought and act
- abstention from sexual intercourse
- 1: heterosexual intercourse involving penetration of the vagina by the penis
- 2: intercourse (as anal or oral intercourse) that does not involve penetration of the vagina by the penis
Putting those definitions together to form accurate information:
Virginity refers to a person who has abstained from vaginal, anal, and oral intercourse.
As per some Wikipedia knowledge:
A virgin (or maiden) originally meant a woman who has never had sexual intercourse. Virginity is the state of being a virgin. It is derived from the Latin virgo, which means "sexually inexperienced woman"
No such thing as "technical" virginity. Your hymen does not make you a virgin. Period!
It's extremely likely (as in, I'd put money on it) that your hymen was just very elastic if you've never noticed blood in your panties that could be related to a broken hymen during another activity. Some women have very elastic hymens that will just stretch during sex, rather than rip, tear, and bleed.
Most hymens already do have a hole in them. If you were born with an imperforated (no hole) hymen then the doctor would have created a small surgical opening when you were an infant. Think of it like this: how else would your menstrual fluid escape if there was no natural hole, right? Most women are born with the hole. If they weren't, a small hole is created so that they can grow into healthy adults.
The hymen is thin but is fairly elastic any way. Younger women tend to have more elastic hymens. Some women have such a flexible hymen that it will just stretch out to accommodate a partner.
Usually what happens is that the hole is too small to accommodate a full-sized penis. The male inserts into the vagina and during this, or the thrusting that follows, the hymen cannot stretch any more and will just rip, leaving along a trail of blood from the "injury."
Like I said though, not everyone is made the exact same. Your hymen was probably just more elastic, stretched out fine to accommodate your partner(s), and may never actually rip or tear (although, during childbirth it's likely it will--not that you'll actually feel it at the time).
So, no, you aren't some sort of "technical virgin." You also really shouldn't be concerned. Your body just stretched easier. That's all.
And, yes, it's likely your hymen has widened enough that it's visually noticeable that you've had sex. Instead of having a small hole in your hymen, you probably have a little bit larger one now. No big deal. Still looks like a vagina.
adviceman49 answered Wednesday February 16 2011, 7:11 am: You may have lost your Hyman through some other activity. If you are active in sports that would or could have caused your Hyman to tear. Some girls do not bleed at all and some girls bleed very little when they have their Hyman torn through penetration. Both of your sex partners were long enough to tear it. You may have been one of the lucky young lady's to not bleed.
You may also be a young lady whose Hyman is open in the center and both your partners were able to pass through it. In this case you would be a technical virgin since you have an intact Hyman. The only way to know for sure is to have a doctor exam in you. Which since you are now sexually active is a good idea. As a 15 year old theblaw provides you with total medical confidentiality. Meaning your doctor stour parents anything about your visit without your written permission and mom mcannot observe the exam unless you give your permission.
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