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Unintentionally isolating myself
I'm a 15 yr. old girl in the 9th grade. I'm naturally shy and socially awkward, but I have some friends that I really care about. Sometimes, it seems like my friends ditch me for their other friends or boyfriends and I end up being left alone. Or I feel like I care more than they do. I've tried making new friends, but that is too hard for me to do because I tend to emotionally shut down and push people away. I need help because I'm tired of being alone all the time.
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Hi there,
First things first: You are NOT alone.
At this stage in my life I am one of the most social and outgoing people you are ever likely to meet. You know that guy that walks into any room, any place, at any time and starts a dozen conversations one after another? That is me.
It wasn't always like that. When I was about your age I did pretty much what you describe as your situation now.
What happened? Well, frankly, part of it is just an awkward age that most people go through. This society, as it is today, has placed, through media, some fairly insane ideas into our heads about what we should be, and when we should be what is expected.
So what happened to me? How is it that I now have no problem standing up in front of an auditorium full of people and delivering a lecture? Someone gave me some exceptionally good advice... and I listened.
Now it is your turn. :-) I would type it all out here, but there is a MUCH more entertaining way to get the same advice.
Watch this fairly hilarious video:
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... and do what it says.
As you watch it, you will agree with practically everything that is said and see it in your own life.
I can vouch for the fact that overcoming the initial fear that creates shyness is a very liberating experience. You will like it. In about 10 minutes, you will know how to do it. :-)
Have fun, and please feel free to ask any other questions you might have.
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Hey,
You need a self esteem boost.
You probably isolate yourself because you're unsure of where you fit in, or if you even fit it at all. You need to make yourself open up, make a new friend in class,and ask if you can hang out with them,trust me they WONT say no. Unless theyre complete jerks, just choose the right people and you'll be fine. Talk to as many people as you can and slowly you'll develop to be more involved. Good luck.
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