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Should I have sex?
F-17: This guy and I were together for 2 years and we were completely in love. We barely did anything though; we didn't need it. We split up when we went to different schools and it was a terrible break up and we weren't even friends. Now we've been apart for a little over a year now but naturally, I still have feelings for him. He says he does for me too, I know it's true. But during the year we've been apart, he was dating another girl and he had sex with her. I always thought he would be the guy I'd have sex with. Now we're finally friends again and he wants to and I know I do it's just weirding me out that it's my first time and not his; just because that's how i imagined it would be. Help!
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If you have to ask, then you shouldn't. Just because you always thought he'd be the guy you'd have sex with, doesn't at all mean he is. He was perfectly fine dating someone else and having sex with her, he didn't mind not being in contact with you. Obviously he wants to have sex with you, he's a guy. Please don't cave and be his bitch, you're better than that.
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There doesn't seem to be much attraction or love or even interest in each other, just an opportunity for him have a sexual experience with you.
What do you want?
I'd pass.
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I agree with Ninja
If you have to ask, You're not ready. Sex is something that should be special and mean something between two people if you just want to have sex because you thought that's how it would be...You are way over your head. My advice: Don't have sex for the wrong reasons, Do it because the time is right for you and your partner. Why do I suggest this? You have sex when your partner doesn't want to commit to you in the long run you hurt nobody but yourself. Don't give him what he wants, Show him you are the type that respects yourself by waiting for the right person. Rushing things is how people get hurt and the biggest thing of all you have to live with it.
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Rule number one: if you need to ask strangers if you should have sex, you shouldn't, because something in you is telling you that it's not the right time.
Rule number two: never have sex with a guy who won't commit. You're good enough to have sex with, but not for him to date? That doesn't fly with me. He wants to use you. You might have imagined your first time with him, but not as some chick he's nailing. Your first time should be special, with someone who respects and loves you.
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