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To end it or not to end it
Hey, I'm an 18 year old female. I've been dating my boy for about 5 months now. We were friends for about a year or so before we started dating. I always had something for the boy. When we first started dating it was like a dream (Like any other starting of a relationship). We were both so eager to see each other.. and just so in love. It never changed for me until recently.
He's been so.. distant. Not only that, but every time I bring up a problem, it's more of a problem that I did. He just doesn't get it. I know he has work and college and I respect that, but I try to see him as much as I can. Which is usually once or twice a week. And some days he'll make up excuses not to see me. I love the kid, I really do. He's amazing.. just.. not so much recently. He becomes cold, distant.. bitter. and everything seems to push back on me.
I'm a romantic, too. I love to give small gifts, whether they're notes or poetry.. or what ever. I just try so hard to show my feelings and portraying it. Every time I do this.. it becomes a joke. He claims it was just a stage of him being sweet and he's not clingy. I'm so desperate for getting the tenderness I need that I'm crushing over other guys. I'd never cheat. I don't know what I want anymore. All I know is I want to be happy. Yes, people say to use my heart and not my head.. but it's pretty hard when it's in this situation. If anyone, please anyone, can help me.. please try. I can't take this much longer.
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This guy sounds like a jerk. You're too good for him and you should leave his sorry butt. Go find a nice sweet boy who will treat you right and forget about this loser. Good luck, even though you won't need it. :)
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I think you should talk to him about this if you haven't already. Tell him exactly what is going on. Then give it some time, like a few days-week maybe and see if he changed from what you told him and is giving you the attention you need. If he doesn't then you really should just move on. You don't seem happy with him anymore, people do change and grow apart. Go find someone that appreciates you and loves spending time with you.
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Mz. End it or not,
Okay this is what ima tell you....i think that you should most diff move on. If he dont want to be in a relationship with you then he need to tell you that, that better that he told you that then acting like he is now. You know how you are and he knew b4 you got into this relationship so he know how you act and what you want in this, and if he is acting like he dont wanna be with you, you know whats next. "Break up"....i also think that you should talk to him and tell him look....whats the deal?" Do you want to be with me and if now let me know. You stay that you crashing on other guys, then thats what you need to think about, if you know that you wanna to be happy and u're not then you got to follow your mind and be happy, with out him. Now if you wanna try to work it out with him then thats what you need to do...Talk, try to work it out. But what i really dont understand is when we started to go to college, he wanna act all distant and weird? Thats what you should ask him. But if he dont wanna talk about it at all, he know what he is doing and you know that yall are done in his mind. But if dont wanna break up and he ask why or how come?, he care about what he is doing wrong....I hope that i helped you as the best of my ability...Always remember every woman needs Peace, Love and Chocolate!!!! ONE LOVE!!!
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There may be something else going on in his life that he doesn't want to tell you that's been making him distracted. Or he possibly wants to end the relationship but doesn't have the guts to do it himself. Either way, you need to sit down and have a serious talk about your feelings, If he can't open up or want to change, it may be time to move on. Hope this helps and good luck.
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Your obviously two different people. He isnt clingy. Doesnt need to see you all the time, and all the gifts your giving him are making him uncomfortable.
If you keep acting the way you are, he's either going to break up with you for being clingy, (not saying you are its just how guys see it), or your going to become so upset that hes not reciprocating that your going to end up breaking up with him.
I would just lay off if i were you. No more notes or poems. No texting or calling him all the time. You could totally just text him at night saying Goodnight for a few days, and see if he responds by texting u more often during the day.
If nothing changes, move on. Find someone whos more your type of person.
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