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Why do I still listen to them?
16/f
There are some people in my class and out of it who always try to get me down.I'm not cocky but I'm really successful at school,good-looking and a good person,they can't stand it and try to make me feel bad.It annoys me to no end but their words don't hurt me.I just wonder why I still listen to them.I shouldn't care about those no-ones at all.I have true friends,a great bf,overall a life I've always wanted-but still sometimes their words get to me.I wonder why...
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this hasn't happened to me, but i've seen it happen to my best friend. she owns horses and enjoys horseback riding and racing. there's always the same people in class who make fun of her and ask her "if she's been to the farm lately" and constantly make fun of her for living in a barn (not literally). there was one time when they were making fun of her and laughing at her and she stood up and just walked away. she didn't say anything. she didnt look at them. she just stood up and walked out of the class. no facial expressions. just walked out. everyone became silent and confused on why she did that. then people started whispering "why did she do that? is she upset?" and then i said "do you guys have any idea how many people make fun of her? do you realize how many times she's gotten rude comments from you? everyday she has to deal with you jerks making fun of her? how would you like it if i made fun of you guys for smoking pot all day long?"
at that point.. everyone just shut up and didn't know what to say back.
so try that. talk to a good friend about it and ask him/her if they can stand up for you. OR.. if you have the courage, stand up FOR YOURSELF. don't yell at them. don't be snotty back to them. just say- you know what? i feel bad for you guys. you have put so much effort into making me feel bad, just so you guys can feel good about yourselves.. you guys honestly have no self esteem at all and thats really sad." then just walk away.
its proven that if you literally walk the other direction from people like these.. you show that you're the boss and you're the one who is going to end things. it does not show you are scared.. unless you run away crying. but if you just say something like "shut up" or "wow i feel bad for you guys" and walk away, they are going to wonder why you aren't fighting back. sometimes people enjoy harassing people and making people mad. if you retaliate and yell back at them, its giving them another reason to enjoy it. if you simply walk away, show no anger, they wont get much pleasure from it because it shows that you're not hurt at all.
be strong and be brave :)
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Hey,
You know what? lets start off by saying You do have a very good life! So you should be confident,Happy and proud it. You have everything you need, so obviously they'd say things to put you down because you're so happy and they dont want you to be, as they are well and truly jealous. They cant stand to see you happy as they have their own life crisis and own unhappiness so they want to crash your happiness to!
Good luck and dont let it get to you, you deserve better.
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