|
How do I interpret this approach from a girl?
I was alone in a restaurant recently where I am a regular customer. A waitress, with whom I have never spoken before, came up to me and asked me if I wanted her to introduce me to some girls (!). I was thoroughly taken aback, as no one has ever walked up to me and asked me anything like that.
I had no idea how to interpret that (if she was flirting with me, why would she talk about other girls? If she wasn't, what brought that up out of nowhere?), and I responded with confusion and suspicion rather than poise, asking her what that was all about. She said it was merely "making conversation", and she said she wouldn't bother me further; this ended the interaction.
How would I have more properly handled this? What does it mean when someone approaches like that?
Thanks to all for your help.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Miscellaneous category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Etiquette?
Maybe it's because you're a regular customer and she thinks you're a cool dude... and maybe there are a couple of other waitresses there who have made some comments about that cool dude who eats there.
Just a thought.
How would I have handled it? Well as a single dude, my policy is it doesn't hurt to see what's on the menu... ask her to show you today's specials.
Anytime anyone wants to introduce you to a gal, you should always say something to the effect of "Sure... I like making friends". There... no pressure.
]
i imagine she has noticed you at the resturant often alone? I would take it as she wants to be your friend. Maybe she thought you were lonely. I would take it as a compliment and ask her if she would like to go out sometime as friends.
]
Gosh, that's weird! The only thing I can think of is that maybe the employees there notice you there alone a lot and they think you seem sweet and it was their way of "helping" you find someone. Maybe they just designated this particular waitress to ask because she is bold enough to do it. without knowing you or them or the "tone" of it all, it sounds to me like their intentions were good. I would take it as a compliment, meaning they think you're swell and want to see such a swell guy with and equally swell girl. However, I think it was a bit too bold to approach you like that, and I would have been taken aback as well! Next time though, accept a bizarre question like that with a grain of salt and a sense of humor and simply say "thank you for the offer but I am not lonely, I just enjoy eating here by myself sometimes"....or whatever the case may be. I think it was cute, albeit inappropriate, and I wouldn't worry too much more about it.
]
Well, you could say she was suggesting the girls most plainly because, perhaps she was waiting on them as well and they asked for her to be the "middle man". Something along the lines of "That girl over there wanted to buy you a drink". That's totally a guess though, you'd be surprised of the "techniques" some girls use to start talking to a fellow xD. Her motive could may as well been inferring to flirt, but just using that as an opening. Say, if you were to say yes, what would she have done? Maybe she would further long the flirting, or she could take it as you'd go for anyone, you know? Everyone thinks differently- so there's really a broad array of answers for this question! In my opinion, she probably thought you were attractive enough to be showcased off to some girls- which would hint that she herself may be interested in the first place. For her to end it on that note, it seems as though she was expecting more of a flirtatious response, but received a taken-aback one. The common "oh, what a stupid thing to say!" was probably going through her head. Though it wasn't what you intended, it wasn't a rude reaction at all either, so don't worry about that! If you're a regular costumer, she's probably recognized you before. And hey, since you're going to go back there again, my advise would be to start up a conversation with her this time, and if your interested in her you could do a subtle flirt- something like, a bright smile and a bit more eye contact than usual. If she responds to it positively then you'll know what her true motives were! If nothing come out of it, well hey, it was a fun experiment, right? Hope I helped some and good luck on your wonderings!
xkisakissx
]
More Questions: |