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Iv been having a problem with my wife there is no sex at all for a year straight and its driving me further and further away from her .I do love her but she won't provide me my needs as a husband .iv talked to her about it over and over again and shw tells me the same thing .it hurt me ! To have sex and to me I don't belive what she tells me so iv been talking to this other woman who knows my situation and wants me to have sex with her but I haven't done nothing with her yet because I feel guilty just talking to her .I know its not right and I surely not a player but what do I do sex and romance is everything to me I can't go on like this but I'm so confused what am I doing! I must be crazzy to even think about seeing another woman but no sex makes me fell rejected
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I wouldn't give up on your wife just yet if I were you. Try to do things for her without sex in mind. Remember the things you used to do when you first dated. If she wasn't your wife, it's pretty unlikely you would just go up to her and start demanding sex. Women like to feel they have been romanced. Try some of these things for her and give her time: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
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First off you need to quit talking to that other woman because if i found out my husband was talking to another woman who wanting to have sex with him. I would be telling him its over. Go see a marriage counsler. She may be depressed. and if shes on some medications can make people not as sexual active. and explain to your wife you can try other things to make it more confortable or not go so deep. things like that. give her a massage before sex. make her enjoy and make her want it. set the mood i know its been a year my husband would be going nuts as well. but talking to another woman while being married and togther is not the way to go its stupid.
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If sex has become painful for your wife, she needs to go to a doctor. And she needs support from you, not you looking around for your own sexual satisfaction. Couple's counseling is also a good idea.
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Couple's counseling.
Lots of couple's therapy.
Don't just walk out on your wife like this. There is a reason why she isn't being responsive. It could be something you're doing, you've done, or something completely unrelated to the marriage.
Instead of taking a step back by talking to another woman you should take a step forward. Talk with your wife. Tell her you'd like to get couple's counseling together very soon. Do some research and find help locally. Go to the meetings. Talk. Open up. Listen. Respond.
You know it's wrong to talk to the other woman so cut off all contact now while you can. I've seen the end result of this. If you have never seen the movie Fatal Attraction then you need to. I saw that happen in real life. You can destroy your marriage completely. You can hurt the other woman. You can damage your wife's self-esteem. Stop talking to this other woman immediately. Cut off all contact. Change your email addresses, messenger names, Facebook account, or however you're talking to her and NEVER think twice of her.
Counseling is how you can heal your marriage and make this better.
If you're not willing to do that then you need to confront your wife right now and tell her that you need to leave. You need to be open and honest about this situation. If it's gotten so bad that you no longer can give her everything you have to offer and have turned to another woman for affection then it's either counseling or leave. Your decision.
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