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My Girlfriend Lied About Her Age and is Under Age / Illegal
I been dating this girl for about 4 months now and we've been having sex all the time. I'm 22 and she told me she just turned 18 when we hooked up at first. Last night she stayed at my house and was like she needed to tell me something and told me she's really 15. I dont know what to do because that's illegal and I dont want to be put in jail for this. I'm getting paranoid she's going to tell her folks and her parents are going to press charges since she's underage / a minor. What do I do?
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I can't tell you what to do, but the law doesn't want to hear that she lied about her age. As an adult, you're supposed to be responsible for knowing that a child is a child, no matter how grown up they want to pretend they are.
I know that some girls really look older, but come on, you couldn't tell for 4 months that this girl was young? Are you totally lost, just being pulled about through life by the call of pussy?
It is time for you ito wake up and start participating in your life. Stop doing things just becuase you can and start to think about the consiquences and how your actions affect other people.
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You must break up with her.
That's not just about what is legal - it's about what is ethical. A 15 year old girl who lies about her age to a 22 year old guy is not the kind of girl who you should trust to make the stable, mature, honest choices that relationships with drastic age differences require. You absolutely cannot continue to see her in any capacity.
For your own safety, send her an e-mail outlining exactly why you can no longer see her. That makes it permanent and will provide you with a bit of evidence that you did not know, and that you did the right thing when you did find out and ended all contact.
Then talk to a lawyer.
In very few states would your sleeping with a 15 year old result in jail time. Even in states where the age of consent is 16, there is often lighter penalties for the 14 - 15 range. I don't want to sound too optimistic, because this could certainly still go poorly for you, but you should do your best to stay calm.
Just do the right thing - end it with her immediately. Be clear with her about why you are ending it (she's too young and she mislead you about her age), and then speak to a lawyer in case she does something as stupid and evil as trying to sic the law on you.
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This sounds similar to a situation my friend's cousin was in. He had sex with a girl who said she was 18 (he was 25), it turns out the girl lied and she was 14. Girls these days pass off as being older because of makeup and maturity levels. The girls parents' found out and he was arrested and is now a registered sex offender :/. Don't mean to scare you...but, this happens all of the time. Now I'm going to tell you, get a LAWYER! DO NOT tell this girl you are getting one. Just go speak with one in your area (it's free) and tell him/her the situation...and please, again, DO NOT tell this girl anything. And DO NOT dump her yet, that may cause her to tell her parents and then your screwed. Unfortunately, the legal system favors girls in these type of situations. But, by getting a lawyer, you could be saving yourself. So, again, please DO NOT dump this girl yet, DO NOT have sex with her anymore (make up an excuse; it could be used against you later if you continue to have sex with her..), and DO NOT tell her your plans about getting a lawyer. Good luck! I feel so bad for guys like you...it's the girls' fault 100% yet your the one's that deal with the crap!
Message me if you need any help or anything else!
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I'd suggest getting a lawyer. There's a pretty significant possibility that you'll need one soon.
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