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My Dad
I am so upset right now! I am tired of feeling like I am never good enough for him. I never do anything right and he always has to tell me. It hurts so bad, why can't fathers just love their children, and not have to make them feel like no matter how hard they try I fail.
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My dad is the exact same way, and it's even worse because I have younger siblings whom he hugs and praises all of the time, but you just have to tell him and let him know.
I finally got through to my dad and we have a much better relationship. But after you break through, it takes patience to get where you want to be.
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I understand where you are coming from. I am sure though he wants you to suceed the best you can. Tell your father how you feel. That you would like him to support you more and you will do your best to make him happy
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Hello.
I understand where you are coming from. I sometimes feel the same way with my dad. It's like he doesn't understand me, he constantly bothers me about trivial things, and he always expects me to do better. But despite this, I know that my dad wants what is best for me, and he has high standards for me because he wants me to excel in life.
I honestly feel like children have a better relationship with both their parents when they are away from them for a while. Parents try to control their children because they want no harm to come to them, but there is a certain point in a teenager's life where the teenager feels capable of making his own decisions.
I feel like your dad loves you. Think about it this way: If your dad didn't love you then he would just let you do anything you wanted, wouldn't care if you were "good enough," and wouldn't make you feel like a failure. All of these things that you described seem really harsh and hurtful, but the fact that he care about you at all shows that he has love for you.
Sometimes when I feel that I can't bare my parents any longer, I remember that I'll be leaving for college one day. Once I do, I'll feel free and independent and little less pressured. You can think of it that way if it helps you deal with this.
Or, the alternative would be to talk to your father about this. You can tell him how you feel and that you love him and would like to feel like you are loved as well. it might be difficult to talk about it, but it ultimately it will probably be worth it. Or if you feel more comfortable you can tell you mother about your feelings and maybe she can try talking to him for you.
I wish you the best of luck with this. Always believe in yourself no matter what others say or what they make you feel. You are in control of your future and you are definitely good enough.
Take care <3.
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