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I don't like my curfew!
Okay, so i'm 15 years old, going to level 1. This is my summer vacation, and my mother tells me my curfew is 11!!! That really bothers me because throughout the school year, my curfew on weekends was 12... I really feel like im being mistreated here, but she will not reason with me. I hate my curfew, and it's embarrassing when all of my friends can be in at 12 and 1..but i'm home at 11.
I've tried to explain to her sooo many times that all of my friends can stay out later than me, she just says it's only an hour!
What can i do to change this? I would really appreciate any advise, thanks!
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your mums right to be protective but the only way to get the message through to her that your growing up agree with your curfew but also dont be afraid to ask for it to be extended from time to time xxx.
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
There are a lot of different reasons parents set curfews as they do. Before I go into some of them you said something about going into “Level one”. This tells me I am probably responding to someone not living in the USA; and that’s okay, I’m just not familiar with the laws on driving and such where you live.
Back to curfews: When my son was your age his curfew on school nights was, depending on the activity he was attending, between 9:00 and 10:00 pm. This gave him time to complete homework and get some sleep before school the next day. On weekends his curfew was extended to 11. Dating was in groups and was usually restricted to movies or mall dates. I know, I was a little strict by some standards, so where most other parents in our area.
We do this for two reasons; first because we love you and want to protect you. Second; it is the parents’ responsibility to teach our children proper behavior. Part of this is being responsible. It sounds unfair but part of being responsible is asking you to do something you don’t agree with, like curfews. If you constantly break your curfew, or fail to call home if you’re unavoidably delayed, is not being responsible.
You may only be 5 or ten minutes late, but you’re still late. In this day and age with everyone having cell phones how hard is it to call home and say; “I lost track of time I’m on my way and will be home in 5 minutes; or “Jeff’s’ dad was late picking us up we just left the mall.” This is what responsibility is about. Your responsibility is to let your parents know that you are safe and aware of the time and your curfew.
One must earn respect; even though you are your parent’s child and I’m sure they love you without question; you still must earn their trust and respect. There are many ways to do this. Such as doing things around the house without being asked, getting good grades in school and respecting your parents’ wishes.
Yes, you want more freedom; you want what your friends have. To have more freedom you have to earn it. My mom would say to me if Billy jumps off the bridge does that mean you have to jump off the bridge too? For the longest time I thought that remark was crass and stupid; then I became a parent.
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you know its funny if i were still 15 years old i would agree with you. But now that i'm older i understand why mothers are so annoying. As far as i'm concerned your mother is right you do need to be home at at a reponsible hour i'm surprised she let you out that late when i was 15 my curfew was at 9:30pm
Any way its my experience that nothing good happends at midnight that when all the freeks and crazy ass people come out. you're only 15 years old you may think you're grown but there is alot to learn about world.
now before you give me a bad rating on my advice hear me out. I don't know you therefore i don't know what kind of a teen you are but if you really thing that you are mature enough to stay out that late you must show her that you are responsible you have to negotiate with her do extra chores around the house wash her car walk the dog or you can even show he how responsible you are buy getting a part time job or volunteer show her that you are capable of handeling things on your own and trust me she will feel more at ease to let you come home at a even later time because she knows that you're a god responsible. kid. In nutshell basically what i'm saying is kiss some serious ass and she'll comply. hope i could help.
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