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friends with benefits questions
does this work?
is it good?
is better then not haveing them at all?
can you get hurt?
how does it work?
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This really doesn't work. I mean, you can go on casual dates without being exclusive or steady, but never friends with benefits. You can never go back to exactly the way things were. I did that once with a guy, and he still makes inuendos about what we used to do as a couple and still tries to kiss my forehead and stuff. It's just not right, and shouldn't be done. Do whatever you think, but it's not a good idea. Hope that helped a little :}
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no.
no.
yes in the sense that they are still in your life, no because they're in your life for "benefits."
YES.
it doesn't.
-Laura (18-f)
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1)friends with benefits is basically you hooking up with one of your friends. this can be anything from kissing to having sex.
2) it works if neither of you have feelings for each other or if you both have feelings for each other but do not want to be in a committed relationship
3) yes, you can get hurt. if you like the other person and they do not like you back. it might be better than not having them at all because at least you are close to them but some people cant take it that the other person doesnt feel the same way about them
in conclusion, i dont recommend it.
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Anything is possible but I don't recommend doing it
My Opinion...
It isn't good, Friends with benefits can stir up mixed feelings, Confusion, Betrayal, Regrets and so on.
I suppose it's better, However it's a big risk taker
Yes you could get hurt, It works the same way relationships do only it's more likely to get hurt because the feelings were never there...
I wouldn't do it, I would at least be in a relationship. Don't screw up your friendship with someone by doing something stupid
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I believe friends with benefits can work, but only for adults and only in very certain circumstances.
Friends with benefits can work when two adults, with a pretty good amount of experience with sex and sexual relationships, agree that they do not want to be monogamous or in a relationship, but would like to include sexual activity in the existing friendship.
It doesn't work if either party wants to be a in a relationship and accepts the FWB arrangement instead.
It doesn't work for young people who don't have enough experience in sexual relationships and don't know how to handle all the emotions that sex can stir up and aren't confident in what they want.
Is it good? Well, like any kind of relationship or friendship, it CAN be good, but often it isn't.
It is better then not having them at all?
NO. NO. NO NO. If you are settling for a friends with benefits arrangement when it's not really what you want, but just because it's the only way you can be with someone, that is NOT good. At all. Letting them go is better. Being in a friends with benefits relationship when what you really want is to be committed to someone is like fucking a brick wall. It's painful and meaningless.
Can you get hurt? Again, like in any relationship or friendship, yes, you can get hurt, and in any relationship where sex is involved, those emotions and that pain will only be keener and deeper than otherwise.
How does it work?
For you, it doesn't.
It WILL NOT work if what you really want is this person to be your partner.
Like any relationship, each FWB friendship is a bit different. Some might look more like traditional dating then others. Other FWB might only see each other every few weeks. No one can tell you how a relationship should work.
I can only tell you this:
If you get into this situation, and FWB is not really what you want, it won't work, you will be hurt, and it will not better than getting over them in the first place.
Friends with benefits is only a good idea when it's what both parties want. When one person is just settling or giving in to it, it sucks, it destroys self confidence and friendships, and is a horrible idea.
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