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Do Condoms Really Make Sex Less Pleasurable For Men?
My partner and I have been sexually active and I'm on birth control. However, as a back-up plan I generally like to use condoms. We've both been tested for STI's and everything (I just believe in never being too safe.)
The issue is, my partner says sex is "dull" with a condom on (we've tried numerous brands) and that he really prefers sex without a condom, because he can actually "feel everything".
This has made me insecure, and I guess I'm wondering if this is normal of him to feel that way. I've heard a lot of guys complain about condoms decreasing the pleasure of having sex - is there any truth to this?
I just feel inadequate and want to please him.
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i think if feels better... but i feel better knowing im not gonna get pregnant and my husband too. sex is dull? really a condom should not make that big of a difference... sounds like u need to spice it up a big.. new things........
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My fiance used to complain about this. Here's what I told him:
"Oh, so you want to skip out on the condom because it reduces pleasure? You know what REALLY reduces pleasure? An unwanted pregnancy!"
Yes, sex is different with a condom. Use them regularly, though, and he'll get used to it. My guy doesn't complain anymore. It's nothing to do with inadequacy. He's probably just under the impression that the pill is enough protection. Maybe he needs to be reminded of the fact that the pill can fail, and that both of you would have to deal with the results.
(The best ones, IMHO are Durex Sensithin)
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yes there is a difference, for both parties involved. However, you are the woman so you have more "at risk" if you will. You're the one who would have to carry a child for 9 months and then care for the child if he left. Therefore you get to make the decisions when it comes to contraception. Whatever makes you feel most comfortable is what you should do. You are still pleasing him because you're still having sex with him! If he does not feel pleased, then just take away the sex.
Now I will tell you that when taken correctly, the pill is 99% effective. But if you ever miss a pill or forget to take it at the same time (even if just by a few hours) it isn't as effective and you have to use alternative methods. So if you were sure that you had taken your pill perfectly for the past month, then the chances of becoming pregnant are very slim.
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why would you feel insecure? Yes, of course using a condom makes sex feel less pleasurable for men, and sometimes for women, because theres quite a thick layer between the penis and the vagina (which is the condom). Of course its not really really thick, but both organs are sensitive, and so even a thin layer will make a difference. So yes, theres truth behind it. :)
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It is not uncommon for a guy to dislike using condoms, However there really isn't much you can do about it. A condom is what prevents STD and unwanted pregnancy.
My partner has also complained about condoms in the past as well, What you could try is lubricant. Lubricant helps sex to be more pleasurable by adding extra comfort to sex, It helps the penis to insert the vagina comfortably.
You could try using Ultra thin condoms (Not sure if you've tried that brand) However, Like I always say...No Glove, No love. All it takes is one shot.
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