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Friend/Boyfriend Drama
I've known my best friend since 4th grade, and we're almost 20 now. She's been dating her boyfriend for a while. Her boyfriend and my boyfriend used to be best friends, but there was a bunch of drama a while back and they stopped talking. Recently, we all started talking again and everything seemed fine. But today, my friend called me and said that ever since our boyfriends have started talking again, he's been really mean to her and has been acting like he doesn't need her anymore. This was definitely not what me and my boyfriend wanted, we thought it would make everything better since we could all hang out again without the awkwardness. But he's been calling her names and telling her what to do, and just acting weird. Any advice for this situation?
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Well I may sound clueless but I am going to be honest.
It isn't your or your boyfriend's fault that her boyfriend is being a jerk.
I mean she is your bestfriend, and you guys have to be together all the time. On the other time, he is your boyfriend/partner so personally, I think it was a good idea to start hanging out all together again.
It would be easier for making plans and having fun with two people you love.
But if your bestfriend is blaming you or your boyfriend for her boyfriend's action then she is very wrong, because you don't decide for his action. (I am just saying because your question isn't clear enough)
Or, if your bestfriend doesn't want your boyfriend to talk to her boyfriend, then I guess the friendship didn't work after all, end it without drama. I don't think you want to loose your bestfriend.
Be there for your bestfriend and ask your boyfriend not to have any contact with her boyfriend until this is cleared out so no real drama to be occured.
Good Luck=]
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It seem that unfortunately you all reuniting didn't work out, so I recommend just breaking away from the friendship (your boyfriend and her boyfriend, not you and your best friend). For whatever reason, it seems that your boyfriend and her boyfriend's friendship is toxic, so that should be ended for good.
However, this really shouldn't make her boyfriend treat her so badly (unless that may have to do with the falling out between your boyfriend and her boyfriend). Regardless, your best friend needs to talk to her boyfriend and let him know he cannot treat her this way and she does not deserve this. If he continues to treat her that way, I would tell her to break it off.
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i will say do what is best for your besfreind first because you two have know each other for a long time
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Hey it's no problem. You din't mention the reason he was acting weird was because he can't spend much time with his friend. Well if that's the case your boy friend should talk to him, tell him that nothing changed and that they are still friends and will hang out like before. And as to his behavior with his girl friend, it's not right. She should not tolerate everything he says. She should talk to him, ask him what's bothering him and why he is doing that.
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