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too young for me?
i have this boyfriend and he's pretty sweet but he liks doing sexual stuff. he knows i'm a virgin and that i want to wait but he still wants to do things like oral and stuff. i'm pretty sure he likes me because he texts me all of the time and we talk about alot of things, not just sexual. infact we barely ever talk sexual, but when we're together he always wants to after we start making out and stuff. but i guess thats normal right? anyways i'm 18 and he's 17 but i'm scared he might be too young for me and especilly since girls mature faster than guys. do you guys think i should stay with him? any opinions would be awesome, thankss.
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My personal opinion, is its not going to work out. I know you don't want to hear it, I wouldn't either. I've been with plenty of guys younger or older and the ones that go for sex (or sexual) right away, I get dumped or dump. Because, if you don't want to have sex then the guy your with should encourage you not to, not bring you down right? I know how it feels. I'm 17 and recently dated a younger guy. All he wanted was sex from me(and failed =]). I'm still a virgin, and proud of it. Also, ask yourself, if he's not a virgin, How many other girls has he slept with? Was it love or lust? By the way your talking, you want love right?
The age between you I think is totally fine, its a year maybe a little less.
Again, that was from experience and my trial and error. Always ask and reassure yourself is it love or lust? And which do you want?
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What exactly are you scared of? Confrontation, I expect.
Assert yourself. Guys are like that. I'm 25 and my wife has to beat me off with a stick most days. We do tend to be a bit more contentious and self aware about it when we get older, but then again one of the perks of being sexually active is that I actually do get laid after I make out. Not having constant blueballs makes it easier to show restraint.
You've got to be able to deal with it and move on. If you're not ready, you're not ready. Isn't going to stop him from hoping you change your mind.
If there's a maturity issue here, it's yours. You specifically stated that he's like this in the moment, which is normal. You're not dealing with it well, I'd imagine because he's probably more comfortable with sex and sexuality than you are.
If you like the kid, don't fuck up your relationship because you're insecure.
Unless it's entirely unwanted. I mean, at this point you do _want_ to have sex with him, right? If your issue stems from not wanting to sleep with him in the first place that's a bit of a horse of a different color.
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So you have a 17-year old boyfriend who wants to have sex after you start making out. This is a surprise to you, smile?
A year in age difference is bigger now than it will be when you are 28 and he is 27. Girls mature physically before boys do, mentally and socially they mature typically in different ways, not in degree. Girls talk about relationships and sexuality from the onset of puberty. Guys rarely discuss relationships period, and most sexual discussion is meaningless banter.
Nonetheless, the decision to have sex is yours alone, and you should go with your feelings. Does withholding sex increase the likelihood of friction in your relationship? Absolutely. Does that mean he is a pervert and you are a tease? Absolutely not, this is just the natural clash of hormones with intellect that most 17 and 18-year olds have had to deal with since time began.
Should you stay with him? If the two of you can enjoy each other despite this natural friction, of course. If, however, having sex becomes the primary focus of your relationship, one of you is going to have to compromise or recognize that this is a deal breaker. Only you and he can work out that part.
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If he makes you happy thats all that matters! age is just a number. Yes, its true SOME girls mature faster then SOME guys. Honestly all guys are not the same. I mean im talking to this 14 year old and im 17 years old yes it seems bad and people can judge me all they want and yes ill be 18 in May and he'll only be 15 in October but i've been with a few boys before him and i have never been truly happy like i am now. He looks like he is 17 and he is very mature for his age. And for instance i know this 15 year old and he acts like he is 11, and billy(the guy i like) acts 17 & sometimes more mature then me. If he is mature enough for you and he treats you right, and you can be yourself around him then stay with him. It's all about your happiness, no one else's. Just dont move too fast either, from experience, thats not a good idea. Make sure that your feelings for each other are real, and nothing short term and really get to know each other. Wish you much luck, boys can be as complicated as girls, and if he truly likes you and wants to be with you, he'll wait for sexual stuff, you should NEVER feel pressured ! your first time is more special then you'll ever know... you'll remember it and who it was with forever. Good Luck darling :D <3
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