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Obsessing over Guys
Everytime I get a new "crush" when I was little, I'd like obsess over him but I was younger and doesn't every little girl? But I did stop for awhile but the I got my first boyfriend then after that it seemed like I had a month inbetween each boy. Some would last 6months or more and others would only last a month or two. My last boyfriend was a 1 monther and the break-up was from him and totally unexpected. I didn't have a "back-up" which was a good thing. It's been around 8 months now, since i've had a boyfriend. And there's this boy that clearly likes me and hes nice and blahh, all that good stuff. But... I'm just totally scared of the whole idea. I don't want to fall into another obsessing over guys kind of relationship. Any ideas on going forward without worrying and not falling back into that trak of boy after boy??
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get to know the boy that likes you, if you get to know him and you like him and he treats you right then dont give up the opportunity of being happy. You never know he might be the one, or maybe he's not but if you like him, there's only one way to find out. I think you need to do what i did for myself, dont get sexually involved until you know alot about him and you know the feelings for each other are real and not just lust, you know, stuff that only lasts a month or so. Believe it seems like it is impossible to find the guy that is right for you or treats you the way you should be treated more than short term, but believe its not impossible. Wish you luck! and ps. dont fall too hard too fast for a guy. :D
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Maybe ask yourself why they are not lasting relationships? Is there a consistent theme to the reasons for the breakups?
You do not give your age, but you seem young. In that case, most relationships are short-lived because both sides are still very immature and trying to figure out what it really means to be a boyfriend or girlfriend. If you are having sex with each of these guys, that may be an issue for some counselling.
Most relationships have a honeymoon phase where everything seems perfect for the first little while. That wears off, and then the real work of the relationship begins. Many people cannot or will not commit to doing that work. If the relationship is not intended as a lifetime commitment it is easy to have a string of minor "flings". You use the word "obsessive" though, which makes me wondr if you just like the emotional cloudburst that accompanies each new relationship?
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