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VERY WEIRD Obsession
I am a 48 year old mom of a 22 year old daughter. My daughter hung out with a guy only 3x more than 2 months ago. She told me he was boring and not aggressive enough for her. I know this is not my business, but I keep bringing him up when I can and tell her she should reconsider. I never even met the guy and cannot stop my mind from thinking she should get in touch with him and give it another chance. I know this is very weird to think and act like this, but I obsess about it quite a bit. I don't have a boyfriend of my own, so is this why I am doing this? My daughter has had boyfriends and hung out with guys in the past and this has never happened before. I can't understand what is up with this particular guy. Can anyone help me?
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i understabd you are the mom in this situation and you want to do what is best for your daughter, if you want to controlled go, but dont forget to trust her at the same time. because they could break her heart and run away , sit down with her and make her understand. try to meet the guy too if you think that is goood for your girl, try to give him too a chance and see how it goes, but tell your daughter to not get pregnant unless she is very sure about herself or knows that its the right guy fopr her.
good luck
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I agree with 'Trauma'
And I also think that maybe you're so caught up on the idea of your daughter giving this guy another chance because you haven't met him. You probably feel you haven't even had the chance to form your own opinion of the guy before your daughter decided that he's not the one she wants to be with.
This could probably bug you a bit because you have nothing to really go on. The whole idea that you don't even know him could play a factor in you wanting her to give him another try. You probably want to get to know him to see what she doesn't see in him, therefore you can't give your 'two cents' on the situation as well.
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I would think this might be a mom thing. Is it possible that you feel this guy might be good for her? My mother does this often. If I reject a guy that she feels is a good match for me, then she gets pretty caught up on it, too. The important thing to remember is that even though you only want what's best for her, it's up to her to make these decisions. I'm sure it would be pretty useless for her to give this guy another chance if she really doesn't like him that way.
However, since you've never met him, maybe you just feel a little bit sorry for him? Or maybe it's just a mother's intuition. Has she told you anything about this guy, like the way he acts? If so, that could be what's causing these feelings.
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