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dad makes me angry.
16/f my boyfriend of 1 and a half years is 17. My boyfriend gets grounded for the most stupid things ever. for even having an opinion on anything. I am so sick and tired of him being grounded. we never get to hang out. well last week he was ungrounded. (shock!) and wednesday i went over to the house that he stays at throughout the week. after school, he called his dad to check in with him. I could hear their convo. his dad said you need to get your stuff done and he said he would after he ate dinner. then yesterday my boyfriend gets grounded because his dad said he came home on tuesday and his stuff wasnt done. when his dad said wednesday to get it done after he ate! ughh it just makes me so mad that he is always always grounded and i have to go all weekend and not even speak to him. last wendsay was the first time weve even gotten to see eachother outside of school in nearly two months. he has tried talking to his dad but it just makes his dad even more mad and he grounds him for longer. what can he do to make his dad chill out a little. my boyfried turns eighteen in four months he is almost an adualt and he still gets grounded so frequently its insane.
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I've never been through this kind of situation. I think the best thing you can do, is suggest emancipation. You're boyfriend is turning eighteen, and if he feels uncomfortable around his dad, he can be try to be emancipated. The age varies around from state to state,but it's usually 18. Don't report the dad, the dad has done nothing wrong (yet) and reporting him may cause him to even be angry at you.
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The person below me suggested "reporting" his father. That is not a good idea at all. Don't even suggest it. First of all your boyfriend will be 18 in four months so it would be pointless anyways. Second of all, getting emancipated isn't that easy. Unless your boyfriend is being abused or neglected by his father, it will never happen.
Unfortunately you can't do anything about your boyfriend's father. His parenting skills are his choice and although they may seem strict to you, to him they are probably pretty standard. His father has the right to ground him for whatever reason he wants. If your boyfriend thinks he is being unfairly punished, he should talk to his father about it sometime when he isn't grounded. He should explain to him that he feels he is sometimes too strict, and he doesn't think some of the things he grounds him for are justified.
If that doesn't work, you should just stay out of it. Your boyfriend has been with his father for the past 16 and a half years, so he understands him better than you do. If he thinks it's a lost cause, it probably is.
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ok well then if his dad is a bad influence then he can report him and move out now. theres nothing he can really do. like i said if thats the way his dad is then thats the way he is. if his dad wont let him get a job thats dumb but if its just because he doesnt have a car to get to his job tell him he can take a bus. its not fair yes but what can you do for now until wait for him to turn 18 and maybe he can move in with a friend or you. or with another relative.
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