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First time---got questions
Im 15/f. (:
Im with a guy i like for a long time. He is NOT a virgin, i however, am. I just had some question's. 1st- how bad is it going to hurt? I have been fingered, does that change anything?
2nd--is there anything i can do during sex that'll pleasure him too? Any tips to make me seem better? am i going to bleed bad?
Thanks in advancee
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Everyone is different. I didnt bleed alot at all my first time and it barely hurt. BUT it hurts alot more if your on top. For the first few times make sure your on bottom and have him go slow and easy. Most guys like moaning.. but for your first time you mite feel akward or weird.. so just take things as the come. You know go with the flow :) Just kiss him alot while hes on you. Fingering does help reduce the pain, if you have been fingered you have kind of an idea of what it mite feel like. But dont be scared just relax.
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1st - I'm a guy. The pain of the first time is different for every person. Depending on how hard he did use his fingers and how many that might have helped a bit. 1 HUGE factor. It helps to dull the pain. Don't think about the pain, I know it may seem inpossible but it does help.
Be aroused, It helps to expand the vagina.
Which makes the pain less, depending on the size of the guy. (If hes huge, lucky you. But that might not be so well the 1st few times)
TAKE IT SLOW
2nd - Don't worry about making him happy the first time or the second. Hes already had sex. SO this is all about YOU.
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First of all, make sure that you & your partner are ready to take all the responsibilities that come along with having sex. & like the below poster said, you can NOT get your virginity back, once its gone, its gone. Make sure you really care about one another, and it will be better for the both of you.
"How bad is it going to hurt?" Everyone is different, it really didnt hurt me that much my first time but it didnt really feel good either. Use lots of foreplay to get yourself going(wet), use lube that way it will be easier for him to enter and there wont be as much friction whihc will hurt you both, relax the more tension in your body the more difficult it makes things.
"Any tips?" Be confident, although you may not know what you are doing, fake it guys like a confident partner, let him know what feels good, take control, clawing & moaning are good ways to let him know that you like whatever he's doing.
I really doubt that he is going to be thinking about how good you are, he is, afterall, a guy. They do not think the way girls do, he is probably just happy to be getting some, so I wouldnt worry about it too much(dont stress out about it).
Be sure you want this BEFORE you do it, & good luck.
Hope I Helped.
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You'll bleed a little, and it hurts a lot! After the first one or two times though it won't hurt much anymore. Think about if you even want to first, because honestly once you lose it you can't get it back. If you're like me you'll regret it eventually you'll only have one first time so don't do it with someone who you probably will regret doing it with. But if you're gonna, when you do, touch him a whole lot, bite his lip, kiss him all over, and put your mouth on IT. hahaha Hope this helps.
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I gotchhaaa (: one thing that pleased my boyfriend at the time was breathing hard, scratching, holding on tight and pulling him closer, and thrusting hard, but don't worry about that, it will come naturally. Trust me :) How bad will it hurt? everyone is different. What you need to remember, is to not tighten your legs, if he is on top {missionary) don't squeeze your legs and block him out! relax a little, it will take time though, try not to be nervous, and, if he lets you, this always helps me,..bite. :) it might hurt him, but it helps you release your tension and it makes it alot easier to distract yourself. :) use a distraction! i learned that the first time and it really helped. You should try makingout with him and ignore what else is going on, because then it will feel good. And i also heard if you masterbate before it will be easier, but i haven't tried :)
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