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My mom thinks I'm a lesbian.
Female-16
First of all, I have a pretty good relatonship with my mom. We can joke about stuff and get along well. Except when it comes to my clothing. She hates how I dress...skinny jeans, band tshirts, eyeliner, converse. It's the typical attire of a teenager today, right? She wants to dress me in leggings and dresses. I hate dresses and stuff like that. She sometimes makes me wear a dress and leggings when we go on an errand to walmart! She said to me twice already "I'm starting to question your sexuality." She obviously doesn't notice my crushes on rockstars and hockey players. I even have a boyfriend. I'm NOT gay.
What do I do/say to my mom to make her accept the way I want to dress?
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You dress to your comfort level. Dresses are not in today's trend unless its your religion. Your mother should accept you for who you are and what you want to wear. Ask her: "Mom, Do you know how it makes me feel when you tell me I am gay? So what if I was would you love me less? I am not Gay I just want to dress comfortable. It's something I will grow out of but for now let me be a teenager." Wait for her reply let her know how your feel. :) I hope this helped. I am new to this haha ♥good luck!
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Just tell her its how people dress now a days. Just because you dont like to dress like a "girly girl" does not mean you are a leabian. you are a typical teenager. She may just wish you dressed up likes a girly girl. I went through my phases in life. just sit down and talk to her about it.
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Wow..so i have plenty of friends that dress like this and i actually dressed like that last year..and one thing that i can say is YES that is just a style. Some people dress like that as a fashion statement,rebellion,or just as an expression. To me,it sounds like yours is for a fashion statement..and who can blame you,its a cute look (: If your relationship with your mom is as good as you make it sound i would totally just sit her down and have a talk with her. Id start off by telling her how much you dislike the way she makes you dress sometimes,and that the reason you dress the way you do is because its the style and thats that. The whole "sexuality" topic can be a touchy one..but as long as youre comfortable with what you are then it shouldnt be hard to be honest with her and get her to see that you arent a lesbian. Id make a note to let her know that you cant base someones sexuality on what they wear. There are plenty of lipstick lesbians that wear the dresses and leggings that shes trying to make you wear. Im sure after you sit and talk with her shel see your perspective.
All parents really want is whats best for their kids,and maybe she just thinks your going through a stage of some sort.
Hope this helped.
xoxo,taylor.
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You could try telling her that it's your choice how you want to dress, that you're old enough to pick out your own clothes, and that it doesn't have anything to do with your sexuality. Point out that most people your age are dressed much the same way, that a lot of women don't go around wearing dresses unless they're dressed up for something, and that you wouldn't have a boyfriend or get crushes on guys if you were a lesbian. And maybe try reminding her that SHE probably dressed in ways HER parents didn't particularly understand or approve of when she was your age.
In the end, though, there may not really be anything you can do or say to get her to accept it. It sucks and it's not really fair, but...sometimes parents aren't. All you can do is try to deal with it, keep dressing the way you want to, and hope that eventually she'll come around.
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