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Falsly accused from a so called "friend"
I was friends with this girl last year. She seemed like she liked me back then and we hung out. This year however, is different. She ignores me and never seems to talk to me anymore. I have never lied to her or talked about her behind her back. She gave me a note that reads, "First off, let me say I am not doing this to be mean Cuz everyone knows I am not a mean person." It goes on to say, "...or let alone do I want to be your friend. I don't want to be your friend because you lie to me and talk behind my back." Then it says, "You talking behind my back is bull****." I have never in my life talked behind her back and I sure as snot didn't lie to her. My ex friend, her BEST friend, does that. Lastly, it says "I will only tell you this once. LEAVE ME ALONE! This is no joke." She then signs her name and has her sister hand it to me. After reading it, I realized that my mom was right in saying that she wasn't going to be a very good friend. My heart is now broken and my spirit torn. She was my only friend and now I have none. What should I do? Should I forget her? Should I write her a note back saying that I never lied to her or backstabbed her in any way? I already know that I am going up to my mom and telling her she was right, but what should I do with the note? What should I do that would make her understand I did none of these things?
Janie93
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Maybe just write her a note back or something and tell her your opinion. Don't act mad or anything with it just write it calmly and then give it to her. If she doesn't accept it or is still mad forget about her. Even if she is your only friend you'll get through it. You'll make more friends, it will be alright. Eventually people will realize she overreacts and if she has never spoken to you about this to your face then she just doesn't want to face you either. So forget her and try and make some new friends who will accept you.
Even better, go to her face and ask her about this and ask if you two can calmly talk about it. Good luck!
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I'm a bit older than you, but I had this EXACT situation happen to me when I was a teenager. A small group of people that I was very tight with suddenly turned on me when my "best friend" started telling them I was lying about everyone in the group and spreading rumors. It hurt so bad because up to that point I was really what you might call a "goody goody". I had never lied or done anything and it really came out of nowhere, so I wasn't prepared for how hateful everyone got right away. It hurt. Bad. I spent a few weeks trying to convince them it wasn't true, but then I realized that I was only making things worse. People will believe what they want to, no matter what you say. I'm sorry to say, but only time will heal this wound. But the good news is, time WILL heal this wound. You won't always feel this bad. And when you're a little older, you'll realize this girl actually did you a favor by making sure you didn't waste any more of your precious time on a two-faced, lying backstabber. For now, just feel what you feel. Its all right to feel sad about this. But just for a little bit. Then you need to pick yourself up and start finding other things to distract you. Join a club, group, anything to start meeting new people. Take care of yourself. Enjoy the things you love. And don't stoop to their level by talking bad about them. As a matter of fact if you really want to drive her crazy, whenever someone asks you about her say nothing but nice things. The best revenge is looking good and being happy. You didn't do anything wrong. She's the "crazy" one, so don't wrap up your self worth in her. You'll get through this, I promise, and you'll be a better person for it.
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