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Question please i feel so down right now
Ok i now i usually give da advice, but when i give advice to myself bout guys i usually end up pickin the wrong thing but when i do it for other people i give da right advice and they dont have any regret it so please help.
Ive told my bf (19 year old) that i feel like he dont love me anymore because he never talks to me and when i email him he dont email me back he says he has a lot of emails like a 100 or some sh** and deletes all of dem and when we do talk much we have a short converstation unless i contiune it and it always takes him bout 2 mins to answer. He said hmm am i sure its him losing love and not me i wanted to slap him cause i love him so much and dont wont to lose him but on the other hand it doesnt seem like he loves me anymore. We've been dating for 5 months now. BTW im 14. Anyway i screamed at him tellin him why would he ask that stupid question and that i loved him dearly i told him he hated me and he said no he didnt but i feel he does so i ran off and he didnt come after me this happened yesterday so idk. I tried dumping him about 3 weeks ago and he made me feel guilty about it and its so easy to make me feel guilty about it cause i love him so much. Tell me what i should do!
Q1:Does he still love me? If so why is he acting like this?
Q2:What should i do?
Thank you :(
Jay
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Okay since you are 14 and a freshman in hs and he is 19 and either out of hs or very close to getting out he is becoming distant from you so you can break up with him because he doesn't want to deal with breaking up with you. At this stage in his life he is moving on either to college or somewhere else. Because you are younger he has to wait for you for 4 more years. If you can picture that if you were in his shoes you might feel the same way too. You have to wait for them to get out of school, hw and other thigns that you might be occupied with. He is 19 and he wants to go out and do other things. Not only that but he might want someone his age so he can have things in common with them. IF he didn't chase after you might be because he doesn't care and if he takes forever to answer you back its because if he stays distant the relationship will just die off. I would suggest ending it with him for many reasons, and you should find someone around your age so that you won't have to worry about this. You think you love him because you see him all the time? but that will all change when you meet someone real and see how they really treat you. Someone who loves you should be thinking about you 24/7 and always trying to see you, talk to you, make everything about you. You will find someone like that and when you do you'll def know!!!
good luck!
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Don't freak out about it. I have the hardest time believing someone really cares about me. If he did care about you he will show it. If it seems like he really doesn't care about you then either calmly talk about it without walking off and acting dramatic about it to see if he'll do anything. You could probably do better anyway if he doesn't even show he cares. Maybe give him some space for a little then see what happens. Good luck!
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Well, there are a few things you should take into consideration...
You've only been dating 5 months, and I know love kicks in when you feel it, so i'm sure it's love, but if he starts to pull away, simply give him just a little space to see what might be going on. He might have a few issues he's trying to deal with. But don't let him feel like you are being distant; you have to let him know that you sense things are different and just reassure him that you are there if he needs someone to talk to. Never over-crowd a man, no matter how long you've been with him, they all do the same thing...they tend to go into this cave, u know? like in their own little world where they are brainstorming and sometimes they dont pay attention to who they are affecting.
The space wont hurt too much, just as long as he's not showing interest in another woman.
Then think back to when you dumped him, was he really bothered by it? If so, do you think he might be afraid you'll do it again. Perhaps he might feel things are unsteady....
Go with this for a while and see what comes from it.
Keep me posted!
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