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What to say when someone has a miscarriage
My friend went to the hospital last night because she was bleeding and pregnant. She miscarried now and I'm completely shocked. I don't know what I should say to her but I'm certain that she is pretty upset about this whole ordeal. She hasn't called me just yet (her husband let me know) but I want to say something really nice and supportive when she does. I expect crying and the works.
What do I say to someone when they have a miscarriage? I know it's hard but other than, "I'm really sorry..." I'm lost!
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sometimes the best thing to say is nothing at all hug her and let her know you are there for her no matter what it might not be much but sometimes saying something can make the other person cry because it makes them think about their miscarriage. My moms boyfriends daughter her and i were close and she lost her baby and had to deliever it. While she was pregnant she started getting sezuries and they wil never go away. shes on medication for the sezuires but she told me everytime she gets one she thinks about the miscarriage.
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tell her that her baby is with God. that her baby was so special that God decided He wanted that baby with him. and that when she has her first baby he/ she will be all the more special and all the more loved because of how hard it was to have him/her. and instead of waiting for her to call you should go see her... be her shoulder to cry on... sometimes words arent even needed
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I know exactly how you feel. My sister-in-law lost a baby at the 6th month and actually had to go into the delivery room to deliver it.
It is total trauma. I didn't know what to say either - we are family but she's not a warm and fuzzy kind of person. When I arrived at the hospital and saw her, the sadness in her face stung me. I didn't say a word. I went to her, sat on the side of her bed, and we hugged and both cried for a very long time. I just repeated "I'm so sorry" We planted a tree in her back yard in the baby's memory. It's a beautiful big, strong tree today.
I'm really sorry is the right thing to say. Your being there is the support needed. Tell her if she needs anything you will be there for her.
Also, I remember when I was pregnant, I felt if I miscarried it would be nature's way of telling me things weren't going right. As heartbreaking as it is, an early miscarriage, especially for the first, is not uncommon, and many women get well and ready to try again very soon.
Send her flowers and call her when she comes home. Tell her you want to see her when she is up to it and maybe do your favorite thing together.
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