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Hello im lee, im 27 years old i just need some advice. My bf got married lastweek a family arrange marriage. Due to we are not same nationality his family refuse to marry my bf. Now i still love him. Shall i forget him? We have more promises. How can i move on? I want to forget him.
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He's a married man; He is no longer your boyfriend. Stop call him that, it's not appropriate, or true.
As much pressure as his family may have put on him, he is now married to someone else. You must move on. Of course you can never forget someone completely, nor should you try, but to cling to 'promises' when he has made an oath to another person is foolish, self-destructive and even dishonest.
Do not allow this man to use you to escape his chosen responsibilities, or to betray the oaths he made. You would be just as guilty as him if you ignore the simple facts of the situation: He is not your boyfriend. He is someone else’s husband.
End your communication with this married man. Your friendship is not appropriate, and your romantic relationship is long over.
You can move on by severing ties, and slowly, and painfully, moving forward without him. It is not easy, and there is no trick to it. You simply must do it.
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This really isn't as complicated as some may think. It is very sad, but the answer is easy. You do have to move on.
You probably won't forget him, but you have to put him in the past. He is now a married man. He chose to go with family tradition instead of being with you. He is not the guy for you.
You move on by getting out there and seeing other guys. You may not want to jump into dating right away so start by going out with your friends. Get out & do things. It won't happen right away but you will get past the pain of it and move on.
Whatever you do, do not continue to see or talk to the now married ex. He is history.
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Hi Lee. Well this is a complicated situation. It depends, what are the thoughts of your bf? Does he love you? Is he going to go through with the marriage? I think it would depend on how you both feel for each other. If you both have a strong enough relationship, I'm sure you can get through this. But if you don't,then perhaps you should forget him. It might be hard, maybe the hardest thing you ever will go through, but eventually, time will heal it. It definitely will. You just have to deal with patience. So with your situation, that's all i can give you right now. But maybe with more details i'll be able to give you more helpful/useful advice. :] Hope all goes well!
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