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pregnant by my own brother
i am 18 years old and i me and my brother brian who is 22 have a perfect relationship. on august 28th we had sex and now i am pregnant. we are really excited and i am going to keep the baby but what i am asking is i do not know how to tell my parents that my brother and i are exspecting our first child
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Umm wow?
Well let's see. I don't even think that I can answer that.
I think the best advice that I can give you is weight the options. Can you support the baby financially? What if your parents take it the wrong way and kick you out, what will happen then if you don't have the money?
I am against abortion. But if you cannot support your baby financially, (because love isn't the only thing) adoption is the next best thing. Their is open adoption which you can still send letters, give presents and even see your baby when you want.
Think about it.
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okay i know that you probably dont want to hear this but you should probably not keep the baby. not only will it really badly damamge both of your lives, but the baby will never live a normal life.
1. children with parents who are related (espessically brother and sister) will have many mental and physical deformaties since their genes are so simmilar.
2. your child will definatly never live a normal social life knowwing that his parents are brother and sister.
3. your parents and the rest of your family and friends may never speak to either of you again
4. you seem a little young to be having a baby
sorry to be a downer, but i feel that i should probably warn you about all of these before.
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you have received and may continue to receive from others.
I am trying to think how I would feel if my children or grandchildren came to me and said they had created a child together. Without experiencing such a situation I do not think I can adequately express what my feeling would be. The very best you can expect is that you parents are going to be extremely shocked and angry with both of you.
Your parents will most likely ask and want answer to some tough and embarrassing questions. You owe them the courtesy of answering as many of their questions as you can. I cannot think of any reason I would willing disown or ask my children to move out of my home; not knowing your parents this is a possibility you and your brother must prepare for.
Carnal Knowledge of an immediate or close relative is considered Incest. Most civilized societies find this disgusting and many Countries and some of the States in the U S have laws making it illegal. Once members of your family, other than your parents, and friends find out about your incestuous relationship and resulting pregnancy, you can expect a variety of reactions from them. The one reaction you should not expect is for them to be happy for you.
Now as to how to tell your parents; you do it together. You start by saying; “Mom, Dad we have something to tell you that is going to shock and probably upset you.” “We will do our best to answer all your questions.” Then tell them what you have to tell them and the decision the two of you have made. Then sit quietly while they absorb what you have just told them. Try and remain calm even if they do not and be prepared for the worst from them.
While I do not approve of what has happened and also do not approve of continuing the pregnancy I will not judge you. What is done is done and I feel you know the consequences of your actions. In the end you, and your brother are of legal age and are responsible for your actions; meaning no one can force you to terminate this pregnancy any more than they can force you and your brother to live apart.
Good luck and best wishes for a healthy baby.
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I'm pretty sure they're going to flip out. I can't think of any parent that would be supportive of their full blood children sleeping together. I know that if you two were my kids, I sure wouldn't approve.
I hope you realize that your baby is going to have lots of problems because it's inbred. It can have negative effects on the baby such as mental retardation, etc. I really don't think that you should keep it.
In my opinion, this is disgusting & you and your brother should be ashamed of yourselves.
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Is he your real brother? I would sit down with both of your parents and your brother and just tell them how you feel. Tell them that you are pregnant and you want to keep the baby. They may freak out and possibly start crying but after it all boils down they may actually be supportive. Just sit down and tell them, i would definetly make sure your brothers there though like i said before. Good luck with everything and the pregnancy :)
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i agree wtih the christina. especially her last sentence.
there is no advice to give, im sorry, but you completely messed up. And i have no idea how you think sleeping with your brother is normal.
disgusting.
THAT IS ABSOLUTELY GROSS
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