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Think im gay
im 14/male and i think im gay for awhile now ive been attracted to guys and i really like a guy were friends we hang out a lot together
and ive developed strong feelings for him im a bit nervous and not sure how to tell him how i feel i think he likes me so do i just talk to him im worried if he rejects me and i dont want it to get out i might get picked on what should i do?
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First off, at 14, you're too young to label yourself as gay or straight. I do realise that you may be classed as gay when you're older, but for now it's only really classed as being attracted to a guy.
Being gay or liking the same sex will always be perceived as being different, thats just how things are unfortunatly, but today being gay is much more acceptable. At your age, being in school and being gay is never easy, but being your true self is more important, then having people like you.
If you really like this guy, you should find out if he likes you more then a friend (or if he is 'gay') Therefore if you are certain he won't reject you, or your friendship won't be ruined because of it, you can tell him how you feel, and he should reciprocate.
Sometimes things don't happen the way you want them, don't be disheartened if he doesn't like you in that way, try to stay friends with him instead.
Even if he isn't 'gay' don't feel like you can't tell him. If you feel comfortable enough to tell him, go ahead, but that doesn't mean you can't come out, if you are indeed 'gay' and aren't just attracted to him.
It's possible to be straight and just be attracted to one guy- that usually means you're bisexual though.
You could tell him that you may be 'gay' or have feeling towards guys. See how he reacts if he reacts badly, if may not be a good idea to tell him you like him. If he is okay with it, then tell him you like him, but be gentle- don't spring it on him.
This is always a tough subject (Sexuality)
I hope it works out, either way. Good luck.
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- Alex
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you may have received and may continue to receive from others.
At your present age I would be hesitant to place a label on your sexuality. At this age both boys and girls are still trying to figure out their sexuality. To label yourself as a Gay or even bi-curious would not only be wrong but self defeating at this time. To even put this in the category of a phase that most young people go through would not be right either.
There are a number of reasons for sexual attraction to someone of our own sex at this age. First and foremost is the fact it is safer and easier to relieve the sexual tension brought on by the changing hormones your body is producing. Parents think nothing of two children of the same sex being behind closed doors, sleeping together, even in the same bed.
My advice: Don’t put a label on your sexuality at this time. Just enjoy learning about who you are sexually. When you are more adult if you still want to put a label on your sexuality then do so, but for now just enjoy being you.
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I think you should find out if he is gay first?? if he is into guys go for it!
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1st off is he gay? if he is then chances are he likes you too its hard to find people you like and are gay at that age....if he is gay or if you think he is bi and will except you then id just tell him flat out when the moments right id prolly tell him a few weeks before that you trust him and think your gay because your attracted to guys and your not really sure what to do if he reacts badly you can always take it back but that would be denying who you are and you should never do that but if he is a good friend and even kinda worthy of being your man then hell understand
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