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from boyfriend to best friend?
Okay here's how it goes. I'm gonna be a junior (I'm 16) in high school this coming year and last school year, I dated a girl I liked for about 4 months. Right after school was over, we broke up. After about a week, we started texting again and after a party which we flirted all night, she said she thought we should maybe get back together. After hanging out a couple more times, she decided against it but kept texting me all the time. Now she says we're best friends (I went to an amusement park with her and her family the other day), but sometimes she texts me and we have good conversations like we did when we went out, and other times she barely gives me any answers. It's like she goes through phases where she likes talking to me, and then other times she doesn't care at all. I don't want to just sit here and let her decide where we go. I still kinda like her but don't know what I should do about everything? Try and go for it again or just be happy with being "best friends"? Please help
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heyyy...well maybe she just has mixed emotions towards you, and so until she figures it out she probably doesnt want to let you go. maybe she has feelings for another guys as well thats why she has these mood swings, cause maybe she cant decide who to like.
maybe you should just ask her straight up,so atleast then you know where you stand
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Well i don't think its right for her to be dragging you to do stuff with her all the time when you arent even going out. If you were just best friends you should still have the right to say "no i don't want to do that" and go do your own thing, no hard feelings.
She obviously likes you a lot if you've been having these good talks on the phone all the time and you've been doing stuff together. And you must like her because you're going with her to do these things and she's on your mind so much. But you should know that you might have hurt her alot when you guys broke up, so if you try getting back together, she might give you a hard time because she'll associate you with all of the feelings she felt when you broke up with her. You'll have to be 100% devoted to her to get her feeling for you again.
Another point is that if you go along with her being your best friend, any girlfriends you could get later on down the road might feel weirded out by your friendship. that could limit you to just having this one girl as a friend and no other girlfriends.
I would definately consider getting back together with her again, but remember that a relationship needs alot more time and effort than a friendship, though its usually alot more rewarding. :) Try her again, if it doesnt work, you can always be friends again. But you don't have to be devoted to her if you aren't going out with her.
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I would stick as friends, It seems like she doesn't know what she wants and doesn't know how she feels. Be friends for awhile, When you both know what you want then you could try again in the future.
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