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ughh..
i kinda feel like i complain all of the time!
and it drives people nuts.
how can i stop complaining?
and just be happy with who i am?
and my life?
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This is something i can relate to cause i just went through the exact same thing. Everyone was telling me i was negative and that i always complain.
Here is what i did , My main problem was that i was complaining about things that no matter how much i complained it wasn't going to change anything. the first thing you have realize is that you saying something negative isn't going to help the situation and its just going to make people annoy you more. I'm not saying you should cheer about it i am just saying to keep it to yourself and wait to talk to someone you are close to and usually by the time you get to that person you realize you might have overreacted. Its not going to be easy cause its something you always resort to just remember that if you keep it to yourself and deal with it on your own you wont have people making you feel worse by saying your negative.
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I recently answered a question about optimism that I think will help you:
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From there:
1. Focus on the GOOD, stop thinking about the BAD.
2. Learn to be resilient.
3. Smile! :)
- Like I said, focus on the good. It's not always easy, but you just need to learn to do it. If something isn't going your way, just look it at from another perspective. Think about how the bad thing is making you stronger, or how it's causing other things which might even be good thing, to happen. Just think of all the good you have in your life, and be happy.
- Your friend is the perfect example. Just because you lose a game does NOT mean you're a loser. Just remember that there's always next time! Learn to bounce back from bad situations. This kind of goes with focusing on the good. Don't dwell on bad things. Learn to move on!
- Smiling does wonders. Smile at strangers. I tried this out at work for a weekend. I smiled at strangers, said "hello" to people I didn't know and told them to have a nice day when they left (which I didn't really do before) and it not only made THEM smile as well, but it made me feel so good inside.
Another tip, start a journal. You can complain all you want on paper, and it doesn't have to affect anybody. You can let it all out and never show anybody!
Hope this helps :) If you need anything else, send me an inbox!
-Laura (17-f)
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i used to complain all the time too! my mom was really annoyed at me. she kept saying how i don't appreciate what i have and what she gives me. the thing is, every time you're about to complain about what you DON'T have, think abuot all the things that you DO have and other don't. be happy.
good luck! :)
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People who complain too much are usually known to only look at the negative in life. The more you concentrate on the negative, the more you'll complain & think that your life sucks.
You need to concentrate on what's good in your life. Remember that you have an education, people who love you, a place to live, and food. A lot of people don't have the privileges that we do.
Stop worrying about the negative. Think about what's good & I can honestly say you'll see a difference in how you think about your life.
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I actually found two sites that can help you out! :)
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They seem to be really good, And, don't worry I have the same problem. Just read through these, they make sense and might actually help you.
Good luck, hope I helped! :)
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Try to look at things from a different point of view. If something bad happens dont get down just tell yourself that it happened for a reason. If your going to work and your not in the mood, tell yourself it will be a fun day, because if you go in with an attitude that your day is going to suck, it will suck i promise. So just try to have a different view on everything.
Hope i helped =]
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well it happens alot you just have to think before you act.and things will go good.
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