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Why don't guys text you when they say they will?!?

Question Posted Sunday August 9 2009, 11:24 pm

It's soo annoying. This guy who I'm friends wit, on friday, said he'd text me on Sunday. So, I was waiting for a text..and got nothing. I hate always having to text first. Why do guys do that!?!?!

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give answered Monday August 10 2009, 6:01 pm:
well he just dont no what to tell a nice girl like you so thats text him and he will feel bad to no a girl text firt.

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ask4help answered Monday August 10 2009, 3:40 pm:
Its the worst feeling isnt it!? Ive been there and sometimes i still feel this way with my boyfriend. Like you hold your phone 24/7 and everytime it vibrates you get your hopes up :(

Ive learned that guys dont find it as important as we do. Its deffinately not fair and hurts and annoys us but they dont mean it. Infact they dont even think anything of it. They think everythings fine and you wont care as much as we all do.

If I were you I would deffinately not text first this time and make him text you if he wants to talk. When you dont text he will probably get worried and text you finally. If you bring it up with him he might start to think youre too clingy. My boyfriends always like "I cant text you 24/7" and he gets annoyed and doesnt understand it hurts my feelings.

Good Luck and I hope he texts you!


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hitler_the_goat answered Monday August 10 2009, 2:28 pm:
because we have better things to do than waste our time typing with our thumbs. nobody ever typed a magna carta with their thumbs, so I don't even pay attention to these texting things. if you want to talk to him, call him.

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AskSidney111 answered Monday August 10 2009, 1:49 pm:
honestly; u dont wanna sound too desperate hun;
just wait until he says somthing so that it doesnt sound like u needed him to say somthing.
let me point out that this isnt easy at all haha.
its hard not to say anything but just try(:

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christina answered Monday August 10 2009, 5:53 am:
He could've forgotten. He could've been busy. You can't assume that just because he didn't text you that he doesn't like you. And you can't expect him to text you just because he says he will. People forget and things come up. You can't be mad at him for having things to do. Besides, you shouldn't even be waiting by the phone. I know you like him, but to me (and no offense) that seems desperate. Always waiting by the phone just kind of sets yourself up for being upset when he doesn't call/text.

Honestly, he just probably forgot or had something to do. If you don't wanna text first, then don't. He'll text you eventually. Your life isn't over.

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Cux answered Monday August 10 2009, 12:48 am:
Just to warn you, I'm not yelling at you only, but all those out there on Advicenators who think that JUST because a guy doesn't text you first, it means he can't POSSIBLY like you.

I don't know what it is that makes people think this. Seriously, sometimes we guys don't feel like starting a conversation because we're not always into talking. Sometimes we are. It really just depends.

And something as little as texting, come on, texting, for goodness sake, shouldn't dictate whether a guy likes you or not. The fact that he talks to you should be good enough, you know?

Since I see texting as the lowest form of communication, other than telegrams and letters, I don't see it as a big deal that he doesn't text you first. Maybe he's just busy and doesn't regularly think: Oh dear, maybe I should text this girl or she might think I'm a jerk.

Guys don't think like that.

So aside from my rant, which has meaning, I think that you should only take offense if he doesn't start the conversation first, if the conversation is IN PERSON, not through text. Like if you clearly make eye contact and he doesn't at least say hello or some type of small-talk, then I would say he doesn't like you as any more than a friend.


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