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Alternative Solutions To Cutting Youself
I'm looking for an anternative solution to cutting myself... I'm 14, and I've recently been caught in the act of cutting. My parents have decided to take me to a psychologist, and I'm really not looking forward to it... It's hard enough to talk to them. The problem is, everyone is asking if I'm okay, and what's wrong, but I don't know the answer to that. I don't know what's wrong exactly. It's a lot of stuff, I guess. I know it's wrong to cut myself, and honestly, it's just plain stupid. Nobody wins with it. I've tried to keep all this hidden from my friends. I don't want them to worry, or judge. There's one friend who I've told, but I don't want to keep pushing all this on them. It's really none of their concern. They've helped me by talking about it, but I can tell they feel awkward about it. So I'd like to get some advice on what I can do to express how I feel without hurting anyone; myself included. (The psychologist didn't suggest squat)
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story of my life? lol
basically the exact same thing happened to me
btw, im 16yearold girl so i can give you some pretty solid advice.
cutting is basically an addiction. it's hard to stop once you've really started (there's a difference between scratching yourself with a safety pin and actually cutting your skin open). However, if you do feel you need help, then you probably do.
i've stopped cutting, and i haven't in about a year. it was hard, but worth it.
as with every addiction, each addict has a different way of overcoming it.
my advice:
realize that you're above it.
insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
gradually exchange your bad habit for a good one
i believe in you : )
even though i didn't cut on my wrists i found that the rubber band trick really works.
it's discreet, and won't leave any permanent marks
it's a great alternative
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I find that I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you might receive from others. My advice is more like what you might get if you asked a grandparent.
I did some looking on the Web before answering you. There is a great deal of information out there some of it good and some of it not so good. One Website Answers.Com seemed to have some of the best information. I have always found to fight something is to get as much information about so I am informed. I would suggest that you might want to go to Websites such as Answers.Com to find out more and see what they have to say.
One thing I saw was that cutting and Depression seen to go hand in hand. This makes sense to me as does stress being a cause of someone cutting themselves. Stress is also a trigger for depression. I would suggest you ask your mother to take you to your family doctor Talk to your doctor about what is going on in your life. Your doctor will probably want to do a complete physical to make sure this is nothing medically causing you any problems. Your doctor will then decide if he or she wants to prescribe an antidepressant or refer you to a Psychiatrist to prescribe medication. No, you are not crazy. Psychiatrists are better qualified to diagnose and treat depression than the family doctor is.
In reading your letter I am of the opinion that you are not comfortable with the Psychologist you are seeing. Talk therapy is going to be very important to getting at the root cause of your cutting. Be it stress, Depression, anxiety or any combination of them. Whatever you say to your therapist is strictly confidential and can’t be told to your parents. If you are not comfortable in talking with your therapist and being completely open and free with him or/her then I would suggest you ask your parents to find you a new therapist. Being a young lady you may be more comfortable with a female therapist, if so say so to your parents.
Let me say this again; anything you say to your therapist is confidential. Nothing you say to the therapist can be told to your parents. This is a protection under Doctor patient confidentiality and within the last five years a protection given under the Health Information Privacy Act (HIPA) passed by Congress. So, please, talk with your therapist about whatever is troubling you.
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Well some things i do when a lot is on my mind..or when im just pissed is i grab a pen and a notebook and i write. this is a good method because your putting your emotions/thoughts down on a piece of paper without harming anyone. another thing i do is...just go to a room where your alone and listen to music until you feel like all the anger is outta your system. i hope i helped..try it out...and try to find someone who understands you the most and a person you could trust and just talk to them about whats on your mind.
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If cutting is your escape from reality, the trick is to substitute it for something less self-destructive. Personally, hitting the gym is a great way for me to relieve stress. Working myself stupid gives my body a release and the ability to relax afterwards, and being alone gives me time to think.
Just try to find another vice. It'd be hard to find something more destructive.
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