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what do i do
this boy jake and i had a fling almost a year ago. i had met him at an event at church. he is related to my best friend. after a month of the fling happening, i became very busy with volleyball and didnt see him for months. during that time i became involved with another guy and so did jake with another girl. so we both basically gave up. but lately i have realized how this guy actually is the right guy for me. so many things about him make it seem like our relationship would be perfect. including the fact that i know all of his friends, we go to the same church, and all of his family likes me. but currently, he is still with his girlfriend and apparently in love. my best friend tells me almost every day to give up on him and that he doesnt like me, etc. everytime i hear that i get mad and her and i argue about it. she goes on and on about how i should give up, i look stupid, i have no chance and she says shes just looking out for me. but deep down i feel as if there still is some hope. so basically my question is, should i talk to him about it and see what he has to say about how he feels..or what should i do?
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hey, dont feel 2 bad. i am going through the same thing right now. only my best friend likes the boy 2. she denie's it but its obvious. the best advice i can give you is...DONT GIVE UP! talk 2 him. let him no how you actually feel. hey who know's...maybe he secretly feels the same way♥
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Get a new best friend.
And a new crush.
If he is with another girl,and if you really care about him, then don't try to lure him out of a happy relationship...just because you can...
You have nothing to prove to anyone.(except maybe yourself?)
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My advice to you is to never give up on true love, you will regret it in the future. You will constantly be asking yourself, what if...? I think you should let this guy know eactly how you feel, let him know that the time you both spent apart from each other made you realize just how much you really do love and care for him. Although he has a girlfriend now that does not mean that he doesn't still have feeling for you, especially if you both had a good relationship in the past. He may probally not know how to approach you and express his feelings to you. But my thing is if you do not tell a person how you feel, they will never know and you can end up missing out on a good thing, maybe a life long partner, who knows? Love will always find its way home, if his heart belongs to you, you can be assured that he will he will come home. Good Luck!
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If I were in your shoes, I would definitely talk to him about it. Realistically though, since he does have a girlfriend it wouldn't be the RIGHT thing to do. I understand exactly how you feel, because I've been in your situation & the best advice I can give to you, is to stay close to him even though he has a girlfriend and if they ever get into arguments or they're not doing so well in their relationship - you can jump in & comfort him. It'll show him that you care and he may eventually come around as a boyfriend. You could tell him how you feel, but he could just tell you that he doesn't want to have a relationship with you because he's with someone else & it might not change anything.
So, keep being close to him & in a few months if he is still with this other chick, then I would bring it up with him. Try & wait as long as possible though, because you could put him in a very awkward situation if you tell him now.
Don't listen to your friend though, if you genuinely feel there's something there, then you're not wasting your own time. You never know what could happen in the future.
:0) Good luckkkk!!!
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